Rough patch last year. She cheated after a night out and went to her ex boyfriend’s, had unprotected sex with him. Said she regretted it, confessed after 48 hours. Did 3-4 sessions of counselling, morning after pill. STI test etc.
Almost a year later. Not much intimacy in the last few months. Lots of talking, she’s feeling down and doesn’t want to be intimate which is ok, we all have periods of life when it’s not the main thing on our minds.
Recently she’s been coming home with bruises on her inner thighs. Could be work related as she’s started a physical job, but there was some before this job started which I asked about but was told she bruises easily and she probably walked into something. I accepted this but this week there was another in a similar place. Then tonight her son said I know mummy’s secret, it’s a secret boyfriend. Then laughed and said it’s my daddy (separated 5 years and living 50 miles plus away).
Im paranoid, I know this. She did apologise for cheating and we separated for a hole and I came back, but I don’t think I’m over it. I didn’t get the heartfelt apology I wanted and she’s laughed at me for crying about it after probably 3-4 months. She’s apologised on message and a couple of times face to face but I’m having a very hard time getting over it. Maybe I’m just paranoid, but a lot of things are leaning to me thinking she’s cheating again. She works and has a kid under 10 so not sure when she would find the time but I can’t help but thinking it.