So my son is 22 and has been with his girlfriend for 4 years. We get on pretty well, sometimes our opinions on things differ but she has become part of the family and Ive grown to love her. She comes from a family that is very differrent to ours and her relationship with her Mum has been turbulent, so much so that she pretty much moved out and lived with us for around 18 months. She eventually decided that she would move in with her Dad (who lives almost 3 hours drive away) my son and her would take it in turns to go to each others house each weekend but the traveling was becoming alot. My son has always been family orientated and as a family we have always been close. My Dad passed away a few months back and it really took a toll on him, they had been in discussions about moving in together and she was adament she didnt want to move away from her Dad, my son felt the same, he wanted to be close to us. In the end my son came to the conclusion that they needed to compromise by living somewhere inbetween (so around 1.5 hours away) she kind of agreed to this, however I had a feeling she wasnt happy ......anyway fast forward, my son has finished his degree and also gave up his job that he had been doing since he was 15 (it was never a long term job) and had been looking for a job that would start of his career following uni. I tried to encourage him to use this time to look for his next steps, there was no rush, he doesnt need to pay rent he could even get an internship if he wanted to get his foot in the door, he has savings (basically he will never be in this position of freedom again) so take advantage of it. A few days later he got a phonecall from his girlfriends Dad saying the company he works for is looking for someone if he is interested - the job is quite labour intensive (the degree he was doing wasnt!) And In all honesty I dont think its a job he is going to want to be doing forever. He asked my opinion on what he should do and I kind of said to him to give it a try if thats what he wanted (I regret this now but Ive really tried to let him make his own decisions as my parents were always quite pushy) he could always just do it for a month or two whilst at these cross roads.....Anyway fast forward 3 months and they are buying a house mear her Dads now and it seems he has "settled" for this job. They come back every 2 weeks and he just looks knackered, he said he is doing 60 hour weeks.
Ive got this knot in my stomach thats telling me he is making a big mistake. Aside from the fact that he is moving so far away from us all, he is no longer doing anything that relates to his university degree and will be stuck in this job because he has a mortgage to pay.
Do I say something or keep my mouth closed?