Grief of loosing a friendship

[Thatgirlmama]

A Year and a half ago I lost a friendship of 8 years due to disagreement, even now I think about it very often and I can only describe it as grief. Although I have done things to reach out to this person multiple times I think it’s clear to see that this friendship will likely never reconvene and I struggle with this. I was very hurt from what happened and so was she and I’m not sure reconvening the friendship is even the answer but how do you overcome this feeling of sadness? A year and a half has passed and I still think about it, I still feel so sad. It would be nice to hear some experiences

Do you want to say what the disagreement was about?
You might find you might still disagree about the same thing and you incompatible as friends.
It is tough though. I have lost female friends, truth be told I have lost a few female friends - sometimes my fautl and sometimes their fault and it hurts either way.

It's painful. In my case lost to a bloke who became their world for a couple of years. Sadly after a couple of years the problems (all too obvious from the start) finally registered. By which time I had dealt with the loss and moved on. But it was painful.

Its ok to feel sad when a friendship ends. Consider how healthy the friendship was prior to the disagreement, what was the disagreement and how was it managed? And ultimately where are you know?

I would suggest that you have romantacised this friendship....

For me i had a 30 year friendship which ended..... it wasn't healthy though as i was making all the effort, we disagreed over a minor issue on a night out, we met afterwards to resolve the disagreement, but ultimately the friendship changed. By trying to resolve i had done what i could to maintain the friendship and it would seem you have done your best without avail. Appreciate the friendship as it was, but recognise it is now lost despite your best efforts and put it to bed.