Is this greedy?

[ellie09]

DP and I decided to have a "pig out" night while watching some TV last night.

I went out and bought some snacks - he then was out and about and brought home some chocolate for us to share.

He had commented that he bought this chocolate because he knows its my favourite. It was one of those big share bars.

Now, there was quite a lot of snacks so I said we should save some for another day and it happened to be the chocolate he had bought.

Went looking for this chocolate today as fancied a bit with a cuppa tonight, and couldn't find it, so asked DP had he put it away.

DP tells me he ate it all during the course of the day. Without even offering me a bit.

AIBU to feel a bit hurt by this, as trivial as it sounds, considering I shared all the snacks I bought but he has took the opportunity to eat a whole share bar he bought for us, which happens to be my favourite?

Obviously I can go out and get my own, but its more so the underlying action behind it all? I just find it rather greedy.

Do you only get chocolate once a year? Was it really expensive chocolate? Just buy yourself some more and have it yourself.

Yes, it is, this is why I take my share early on and hide it as DP has no so self awareness of eating all the crisps chocolate biscuits. He’s a greedy pig.

I get it. I like ice cream but only once in a while. DH has some many evenings a week. With chocolate I can just not exactly hide it but put it in a slightly unusual bit of the cupboard so it's more likely no one has come across it and snarfled it by the time I want a bit. But ice cream has to be, obviously, in the freezer.
Have once hidden it under the big bag of frozen cherries everyone hated. Worked well for a time. Then they found it.
I'd feel the same as you op. Especially annoying when it's your favourite and gone in only one day!

I think it's really wierd to morally police other people's eating.
Of course it's fine to want to save something for yourself for later but you need to be clear about that if you share a house with someone. I would always directly say 'please don't eat this I'm saving it' or 'please leave me half of this' etc.
I would absolutely not be labelling anyone 'greedy' as that's such a wierd emotive controlling thing to say.
I'd be pissed off if I'd asked for something to not be eaten and it had been, because my wishes would have been ignored.
But I do think it's odd to have unspoken exodctatikns and values regarding what another adult should or should not be eating.

As a previous poster said, it depends what he’s like normally. Obviously it’s not great if part of a pattern of selfish behaviour. But as a stand-alone action, it’s really not that bad.
We all have our moments of self-indulgence! And I’m sure he can buy you more.

Yeah sorry but this
As we say in this house "you snooze, you lose" 😁

I get given lots of chocolate at work. My husband seems to eat most of it. No big deal, I can always buy more. I do actually know of people who hide chocolate, mainly because they don’t want people knowing how much they eat, so if this bothers you, you could do the same!

Just go and buy another.

It’s chocolate, go buy some more. Presumably you didn’t have a whole discussion about a portion of it being saved for you if he ate it later on?

Also - not the question, but YABU using the term ‘pig out.’ Language like that is so damaging, just enjoy a treat/snacky dinner for what it is. You don’t need to give it a gross name like that to somehow validate what you’re eating.

When DH inhales snacks before I get chance, he says he's 'saving me calories' 😂

You both sound greedy.

It’s just a bar of chocolate. Get a grip.

When I had teens at home, I found the ideal place to hide non perishable treats was at the back of the cleaning products cupboard - zero chance of them coming across it there!

You both sound greedy.

That’s how it works in our house.

If I want chocolate to last more than twenty minutes I buy white chocolate which I love and DP hates. You should have hidden it OP, sometimes you have to be devious.

Cleaning cupboard. Brilliant. Happily, it's more DH going in there than me. Off to see if there's any chocolate at the back. 😁

The whole situation sounds greedy tbh! Do people really do this?

This is a cardinal sin in my eyes. There’s nothing worse than looking forward to something all day, only to find out some greedy bastard has snaffled the lot and not saved a crumb for anyone else.