Is he just a bit of a twat?

[Shabang21]

I have recently noticed that DH has this habit of starting a conversation - music, politics, whatever - where it is entirely evident that he doesn’t actually want to converse with me. It’s more, he just wants to talk at me with his opinions and hear himself talk. It started when he’d talk about something that we were both kind of interested in, and has now progressed to “you know such and such?”
Me “no, and I don’t really care.”
He “well, it’s this, it’s entirely ridiculous and means this and anybody who agrees with it is entirely stupid and blah blah blah blah”
I am literally staring into space for ten minutes while he just goes on and on and on with his big opinions. Like, why start a conversation, just go talk to a mirror? Does anyone else’s partner do this, and am I out of order for thinking it’s kind of a wanker thing to do?

Unfortunately most monologuers are bellends! Anyone who had any thought for other people wouldn't do this. I believe it is a fairly common narcissistic trait. This is from google, does it sound familiar at all? :

Characteristics of a narcissistic monologue:

• Self-centered topic: The conversation revolves solely around the speaker's thoughts, feelings, and experiences.
• Lack of reciprocity: The speaker dominates the conversation and becomes angry if interrupted, showing little interest in what the other person has to say.
• Boasting and bragging: The monologue often includes a lot of self-praise about achievements and perceived greatness.
• Victim complex: The individual may frequently talk about how they have been wronged, presenting themselves as a victim.
• Ignoring cues: The speaker disregards social cues of disinterest, such as eye-rolling or closed-off body language, and may even ignore direct statements from the listener.
• Draining for the listener: The experience can be exhausting and leave the listener feeling unheard and unimportant.

Seriously, are we married to the same man?! That’s eerie, honestly. But yes, the amount of conversations that are clearly just regurgitated guff from a podcast/article is unreal

My husband is exactly the same OP. I've given up now tbh. He just likes the sound of his own voice. It's boring

Because he’s a narcissist like mine. If you watch Dr Shamani on YouTube it really helps to understand that it’s not your fault and there’s nothing you can really do about it to change them.

If the person has ASD it’s called info-dumping. If he’s not ASD, and maybe he should be assessed, then he’s just being a bore, because he’s completely wrong, that’s not ‘how conversations are’

Has he considered politics as a career- being very dull, with dull opinions and being tone deaf to everyone else's needs seem to be the main qualifications.

Our adult son is on the spectrum (diagnosed) and used to monologue like this in his teens, especially about politics. He is now doing his finals of a politics degree.

He got better after a while. We would say enough now, stop talking, ok we are bored now and on occasions ask him to leave the room. I guess that's easier with a child/parent relationship. But I think what really knocked it out of him was being in the debating society during A levels and then uni. I think he was very firmly informed that he would not get anywhere without hearing both sides of the debate.

I'm almost ashamed to say when he was at his worst we would just repeatedly heckle him: "crap", "rubbish", "bollocks", "who invited this boring twat" etc and he'd (eventually) get the message and stalk off. It didn't seem to offend him before anyone thinks this is unkindness towards an ND person (I'm also ND). He would happily treat us to his next monologue the very next day.

TLDR: tell your husband to join a debating society.