What's with using wine glasses for gender reveal cakes

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Happy to be told IABU but my god those wine glass gender reveal cakes give me the ick. Why not just cut the cake with a knife? Am I the only one who finds this trend weird?

I really couldn’t care what people do if it makes them happy. I don’t understand why people hate so much on gender / engagement / wedding / birthday / hen celebration.

If I love someone enough I will celebrate in whatever way makes them happy. If I don’t know then well enough it doesn’t affect my life so I think just crack on if it makes you happy.

Nobody else is interested in the gender of your baby apart from your family.

Gender Reveals are horrible, tacky, performative, and money grabbing. See also Baby Showers…

Exactly. Blaming "the cost of living".

Yeah, I was the same, but I think nowadays people have a lot more disposable income. There are so many more of these "events".
We needed to save money for raising the child!

I find it a bit over the top and ick to announce it like that. I always hope subsequent children of the other gender don't see the video. I'm of the opinion if you want to find out great but just text or WhatsApp, you don't need the whole performative thing. That's all I did when I found out the gender of DD but she was meant to be an only and after two losses I wanted to know to bond better. Second born was a surprise gender and he could have been an alien for all it mattered.

I'm more pissed off that we have embraced gender and people are no longer asking the sex of the baby. For those saying you didn't find out the gender, you obviously believe in gender and in which case the child won't have decided. One thing about the 80's, we didn't shy away from saying, sex, or asking the baby's sex. I'll go to the opening of an envelope, so bring on any party.

It’s the performative aspect that irks me. I think it also puts pressure on people who think they have to follow the trend, and waste their money.

Eh?

It's just all daft nonsense that no one needs, tbh

You're right, and that's awful-it was disgusting the way people used to "need" sons as marrying off daughters was difficult and expensive, but you'd hope we'd have moved beyond dismissing one gender long ago. I still remember one of my primary teachers making a negative comment about boys, but back then some people didn't seem to challenge about sexism/racism.
Plus scams occasionally get the gender wrong! Rare, but it happens. Why do family/friends need to know anyway-the last thing a new mum needs is them moaning they bought a pink sleepsuit and it's "wrong".

For me this is the same for anything in life though, you just draw your line in a different place.

If you celebrate a birthday with a cake you could be performing too. 150 years ago people didn’t have money for a cake or candles, slowly over time it’s become the norm. I bet someone has complained about a family having cake and candles, then a party then cake, presents and a party over the years.

I always think this when people complain about baby showers. Where’s your limit on performance and making people feel like they have to follow a trend….as Christmas with fancy table setting or a free range turkey and homemade butter could be exactly the same bucket.

We did a different old and boring. Found out ourselves, but didn't tell a soul. No one knew we knew😆

The absolute anti-gender-reveal!

More attention for former/future Bridezilla.

Another life thing that has been commercialised. My gender reveal was the day they were born and, quite frankly, it was lovely to think id have a surprise at the end of all that pain and pushing!

Not many years later the scans got so much better that I understand why the parents might want to know but i do slightly feel for them as the real deal gender reveal we experienced is rather special.

Don’t feel for me finding out at scans - nothing performative and just a sonographer saying boy or girl. I got two special experiences:
1 - finding out at a scan that my baby would be a girl/girl/boy
2 - meeting my babies for the first time at the birth and finding out what they looked like, their hair colour, etc.

Felt pretty special for me and I’m happy with my choices. I’m also happy for others who make a different choice. 🤷‍♀️