To refuse to look at anymore houses ?

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My MIL is due to move closer to us due to some health issues. Shes sold her house. We must have looked at 20 houses over 3 weeks. A few I thought were suitable but she didn't like them. Fair enough. However, we both work and all weekends are being taken up with house viewings. Aibu to say I can't look at more houses? Its like groundhog day.

YANBU - can she look at some by herself and then only involve you (or preferably your DH) once she has a short list and actually likes them! So you could do a second viewing once she has sorted out the couple she does like.

Surely she doesn't need both of you to go with her?

Are you sure she wants to move?, sounds like she's got you on a wild goose chase!

Are you viewing them with her or for her? I wondered if she is still based away and you are looking on her behalf?
If she is currently local and you are all going together then definitely stop going. If you are going on her behalf tell her you'll only view x more and then she'll have to take over.

Just say no. Lay down clear boundaries of when you are free and when you are not. If DH thinks he ought to do this every weekend, so be it, you don't have to go with him.

You might want to have a conversation with DH at this point to say while you are happy for her to move closer, you hope she has plans to follow her own interests independently etc., and you aren't going to be expected to ferry her around to appointments or be her only source of a social life. It will take time, of course, for her to settle in, but don't become the default carer.

She defo does want to move. Ive been going as I know the area I suppose. Its getting wearing now.

Get her son to go

He will have to from now on. Tbf he has been to most of them with us.

This absolutely

She needs to hone her criteria or she's going to waste a huge amount of everyone's time including her own.

Seeing houses must have clarified what she does/doesn't want.

Tell her that you will go to the second viewing. House buying is very personal and what to an outsider or family looks practical might not mean the buyer is interested as they don’t love it

To be fair, she needs to be happy with what presumably is going to be her last home. “Suitable” doesn’t sound very joy-inspiring.

And if this is a big change for her, it’s going to take a bit of time to get her head around what’s available and what she can afford etc.

But, yeah, you don’t have to keep going if you don’t want to.