Wearing wedding dress from previous engagement?

[Kahar]

I have beautiful fabric for a white Saree. I’m half Indian so it’s a nice nod to both cultures (imo). Ex MIL to be paid for the materiel as my own mother has passed. Very sweet gesture.

The wedding did not end up taking place. I had plans to dye the material but never really got around to it.

Now I am very happily engaged. Would it be weird to use this material? It’s not cheap and I still love it (pic included). Who doesn’t love to save money?

Ive had mixed feedback from friends . New start vs why not?

It's absolutely gorgeous. Definitely wear it!

I don’t think I would.

I would have, but I'd have kept it very quiet that that what it was. I'm not sure you can if you've told everyone.

Definitely use it. I used a few bits from my first marriage (divorced) at my second wedding this year such as my veil. I’d have reworn the dress too but it was too big.

I don’t believe there’s any bad luck etc associated with these sorts of things (I bought my new wedding dress from someone whose wedding was called off) and I’m generally a superstitious sort of person. I also don’t think there’s anything wrong with using something gifted by your ex’s mum. It was a gift for you to do as you want to do. It’s beautiful and would be a shame not to use it.

Judgy people will judge.
Superstitious people will look for bad associations.
Frugal people and people who worry about consequences of consumerism will wonder why not..and so on.
Depends who you want to please, in this case, as so many others, it should be yourself first.

I'm not sure I could, and honestly, yes if I knew the backstory I'd think it a little odd.

How strange though, I was listening to a podcast yesterday that talked about this (it was an ep of No Such Thing as a Fish) where they were talking about how people wouldn't wear a jumper that once belonged to Hitler, but they would if Mother Theresa had owned it after Hitler but before you. Some sort of transference of intent?

So maybe gift it to your sister, she can be the one makes all the arrangements for you, and then it's her gift back to you. That should sort it!

Wear it if it won't make you think of your previous fiancé on your wedding day.

Actually...maybe its lucky?
Lucky you didn't marry your ex fiance should equal lucky dress ?

That's so beautiful OP. It would be such a shame not to wear it. Your dress should be a reflection of you, not the groom, and you're the same woman.

I think had it been an actual wedding dress I would've said absolutely not. But as it's just material, then absolutely yes.

I would say as long as your fiance is happy and you are happy, what does it matter what anyone else thinks? It is stunning so I can see why you want to!

My only hesitation would be because your ex-MIL to be actually paid for it. Are you still in contact with her? I’d want to do something to put that ghost to rest somehow before going ahead and wearing it to marry someone other than her son.

Is a bit werid.

Would you tell your husband to be where the material came from?

Also did you reimburse the ex MIL to be when wedding didnt happen?

That is beautiful 😻 It's not actually a dress yet so I'd wear it.

The material is gorgeous; please do not let it go to waste.

I wouldn't be able to disassociate from previous relationship, plus White is allocated to Widow / Funeral wear - however gussied up. I would return, plus new fiancé family will be highly offended if they find out. Not sure about the nuances but think in-laws gift pre and post outfits too!

P.s or go back to your previous idea and dye!