To think that ‘bullies’ and ‘bossies’ tend to target people they perceive as weaker but hate it when these ‘weaker’ people decide they’l no longer tolerate it?

[Gigglepastell]

I’ve been on the receiving end of bullying from

my mum
ex partner

too many others to mention - but these people don’t like it when I push back and won’t put up with it?

they typically act offended and say I’m being ‘difficult?’

Well yes, standard bullying behaviour.

Yes.

I was the subject of workplace bullying in two previous positions. In the one I am in now, I was targeted and put on a totally unfair and unjustified PIP.
I fought back and got the union involved and raised an unrelated grievance about unfair treatment of me.
I can almost guarantee they'll leave this 'underdog' alone now.

My Dad, xmas 2021, threatening me after dinner, wealthy, middle class 70 year old bloke squaring up to me like a bloody thug. This time however, I didn't move, kept my composure and asked him repeatedly to please get out of my way, please let me pass etc. I can swear he did a cartoon-like head shake before he moved (and I left, not returning for our usual drinks/games gathering that evening).

My ex, similarly, tried it with me when we were still living together but seperated. I looked her in the eye and told her that I was not scared of her any more and she'd have to find someone else to bully now.

Silence. Our paths still cross (she still lives in my house that she rents from me and we share a dog). Nobody is nicer to me than her, now!

Sometimes a 'fuck this' is required, despite any societial 'rules'.

Well, yes, of course. But it’s not your responsibility to manages their responses to you, as they see it ‘being difficult’. Their shit is their shit.

You’re expecting rational, logical, empathetic behaviour from people who have proven themselves incapable of it by their initial actions.🤷‍♀️

Yes! Standing up finally to one sister who’s treated me like shit my whole life, I’ve decided at long last not to seek her approval. In true Trump rhetoric, when I laughed off her criticisms, she called me “evil”. Sadly though this means seeing my brilliant niece less, but means I have increased self worth.

secondly, a boss who is so hot and cold with praise/criticism that it was driving me crazy with self doubt. I let my feelings of dislike known in a subtle way and she did not like it at all. Self employed work—I’ve never gotten work from her again, but at least I don’t work with her anymore hah.

I’ve done this with a neighbour - she’s been patronising towards me in the distant past but in the last 5/6 years although I’m polite and basically respectful I’m no longer friendly or forthcoming so don’t give her any ‘news’ about me and take zero interest in her life.

I think she’s slightly offended cos every time she sees me she acts passive aggressively but with a smile on her face!

Excellent glad you stood your ground with your work and with your Dad!

my mum was the same - wealthy middle class alcoholic who gets very aggressive when things don’t go her way!

At work,a young lady started
A lot of the younger ones where terrified as she had been a bully at school (a few had to leave due to her behaviour)
Us older ones had seen it all before (and had been bullied ourselves)
We all gave her a chance but she started with her bullying behaviour as soon as she started
We got together and stood up to her,she hated this so tried being much more sneaky and we called her out for that too
It took 9 days before she ran to the bosses,screaming we where bullying her!
We where hauled in and we explained we wouldn't bully anyone (never had) and she was the bully
I said they needed to do an investigation and if they'd found any of us bullying her we'd quit on the spot
They did-250 people called her out as being the bully and she was left looking a bit silly
She lasted another week before quitting and has had 7 jobs in less than 5 months because those kids she bullied at school are now grown up and have the backing of other people who won't put up with it
(Shes was used to school saying shit like 'shes had a hard life,just ignore her' to the victims)
Shes finding life a lot harder now-i hope she grows up,looks onwards and sees herself but I dont think she ever will

Excellent that you stood up for her 💪

@Achewyhamster

sorry meant stood up TO her not for !!

sorry can’t edit!

Sounds like you all ganged up on her. Well done you, mob handed…

We didnt in any way bully her
We would take her to one side and explain that hitting a lad in the nuts 'accidentally' or slapping the back of someone's head ,'as a laugh' may have been ok at school,but not at work
So she started trying to tell lies and spread rumours about us all and set up her own groups of people to take her side
When that had no effect,she ran off to the boss and tried to get us into trouble
250 people told the truth about her bullying and she didnt like it
I've been bullied myself and in no way would I bully anyone else
We tried and she refused to listen