To not understand this story?

[orangepumpkinjj]

I was just reading a news story of a woman who met a man in a homeless shelter, immediately moved him in and 3 days later he murderer her. I just don’t understand this story what on earth would make someone think this way a good idea? I’m not “victim blaming” just trying to understand this story, she was a mum of 4, though I’m not sure from reading the story if her children actually lived with her but if they did why would someone move a homeless man in with their kids even without kids it’s alarming? He had a history of violence and had already been to prison for assaulting a woman I’m guessing she wasn’t aware of his background. Aibu to find it scary how trusting people are and seem to have no regards for their own safety?

Have you got a link to the story?

Sometimes people make bad decisions. I presume she believed whatever sob story he told her and paid the ultimate price for it.

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/breaking-homeless-man-admits-murdering-35795836

She thought his presence would deter the drug dealers who were threatening her at the time she asked him to stay

www.standard.co.uk/news/crime/hammersmith-london-police-met-police-old-bailey-b1255740.html

It says she had asked him to leave so she did think of her own safety

You wouldnt move someone you just met in if you was thinking of your safety she moved him in the same day she met him which is how the article reads, just hope the children didn’t live there.

She moved him in and then regretted it. What’s the benefit to victim blaming her like this?

Utter madness. What the hell was she thinking? It defies belief.

I know but you are not allowed to question it it seems, something obviously happened in those 3 days we will never know what but of course she wasn’t thinking of her safety if she was she wouldn’t have moved him in

What a terrible thing to happen.

Why do they have to make a point of saying she had a £1.3 million home? It's central London. It's just a basic flat there. Poor woman.

There's plenty of research into the psychology of victim-blaming.

Her family will be grieving.

Some people are just too trusting and see good in people without knowing who theh are and what they are capable of. They want to help. Very sad story x

I'd hazard a guess she had learning disabilities. Sounds like her and her flat were being targeted to be cuckooed.

I'd also guess the children had already been removed from her care... Tragic story though 😔

There's obviously a bit more to this story than has been reported.

She apparently moved him in as she thought he might protect her from local drug dealers she was having issues with. There's generally only one reason that a drug dealer would be threatening you, so it's probably reasonable to conclude that her decision-making abilities might have been somewhat impaired.

I don't actually care if it's "victim blaming", as a mother of four children she was absolutely insane to let a random homeless man move into her house. That's not generosity that's brazen stupidity. And she expected him to protect her from local drug dealers who were threatening her... Why was that then? She doesn't exactly sound like the queen of good decision making does she.

Women are ripped to shreds on here all the time for letting their new boyfriends stay in the same home as their kids, but we're supposed to pretend this wasn't at least partially her own stupid fault? Nah. She was irresponsible and foolish, more than once it sounds like if she had drug dealers threatening her, and she paid for that with her life, leaving four children without a mother in the process.

I feel for her family and her children, but I'm not going to sit here and pretend this was just a freak occurrence that she had no chance of preventing.

I didn’t see the drug thing yes definitely more to the story there and seems that she didn’t have her kids in her care so at least that’s something as quite often these men target the kids as well. The cost of the house is irrelevant as likely social housing.

Yes exactly, if she posted on mumsnet saying she’s just moved a man in she met that day people would not be saying how kind a generous she was. This just highlights the dangers of moving quickly with someone you’ve just met but we aren’t allowed to mention it. It’s bizarre she thought he’d protect her against drug dealers yet most homeless people have substance abuse issues 🤔

She got a home worth 1.3million on social housing???

Yes it’s possible I know someone who lives in a central London HA property and it’s worth similar to that.