What is your evening routine when kids have late hobbies?

[Blueybingomum]

Please help and give us some advice before I divorce my husband.

dd17 has 2 horses, started around 4 years ago and that one is now happily retired so doesn’t take up much of our time, our new one she purchased in May.

dd now works until 5.30 every night so we are going to the yard at 6-6.30. We are lucky that we are on full livery as the yard is a 20-25 min drive away. It’s a lovely yard and our youngest has lessons there too on a Saturday.

but the issue is I work away quite a bit so when it’s my DH turn to take her he absolutely hates it. He moans and is grumpy and just makes the whole situation horrible. The kids rarely get dinner because “it’s too late to eat” by the time they are finished riding. It’s exhausting having to deal with it while away with work. It’s probably once or twice a week he has to take her when it’s his turn.

so how do you manage it? What do you do for dinner etc?

Not your circus, not your monkeys

On the nights you don't do it, he can step up and be an adult and sort it out for his children

Ffs the bar is low on this one!!

Your husband is a selfish shit.
What is the point of such men?
Why do you tolerate it?
Sounds really miserable for the 9 year old.
I don't believe in the hobby of one child dominating the house.
It leads to massive resentment which you will hear about in years to come.

A parent I know allowed her sons tennis to dominate their life during the for years most weekends.

He didn't end up at Wimbledon but she has ended up with a very challenging fractious 17 year old daughter who uses her absence as a stick to beat her with.

These are important years for your 9 year old.
Its not fair for her to be dragged pillar to post because her sibling has a horse miles away.