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House move

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Summersglow · 30/10/2025 16:23

Hello, looking for a handhold I guess.
Myself and my toddler are due to move house in a couple of days, leaving behind my ex partner's home and the house we have lived in for the past five years. (Weren't married, I wasn't on the deeds but had child 2 years ago) I wasn't emotionally supported since the birth of our child and our relationship struggled.
We seperated earlier this year and I figured I needed to be closer to my family as I just don't have a support network where we currently are and my family are 20 miles away. I don't drive.

I am moving from a village which is so close to the countryside/green spaces, nice parks/cafe's/community venues and the general area is better (although this current actual house is not great (damp, noisy on main road and well, not my home!) But I have managed to find a rental (after months of searching) through a friend of a friend which is close to my support network, new nursery etc. Only the area is very suburban and definitely rougher. I am from the town and left years ago. I just feel this absolute pang of sadness leaving behind the local places I love to visit but know that I need out of exes home and need to be closer to my family. I have total rose tinted glasses on and now just feel sad at everything ending, even though it was for the best. Kind advice for how to get through this transitional stage of setting up a life somewhere else, would be welcome! Thanks

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StartupRepair · 30/10/2025 20:25

Well done for putting yourself and your child first. You will be so happy in your new home.

FairFuming · 30/10/2025 20:30

You will find new places you love to visit and make new friends and you'll have better support which is worth so much. you can always look at moving to the countryside again later when your child is older.
I moved home to the village I grew up in when I left my kids dad and I felt like I went backwards until I got there and realised it was so much better for me and my children to be near people who love and support us. We've been back over 4 years and I have no regrets

SeaAndStars · 30/10/2025 20:41

I've moved house 16 times and I have a wobble like this every single time.

It's the upheaval and the unknown. Honestly, within a couple of weeks in your new house you'll have met your neighbours, found other new favourite places, have spent time with friends and family, had cups of tea and glasses of wine with them in your new kitchen. It will all be ok OP. You and your little one will have a fresh new start.

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Summersglow · 30/10/2025 22:18

StartupRepair · 30/10/2025 20:25

Well done for putting yourself and your child first. You will be so happy in your new home.

Thank you.

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Summersglow · 30/10/2025 22:19

FairFuming · 30/10/2025 20:30

You will find new places you love to visit and make new friends and you'll have better support which is worth so much. you can always look at moving to the countryside again later when your child is older.
I moved home to the village I grew up in when I left my kids dad and I felt like I went backwards until I got there and realised it was so much better for me and my children to be near people who love and support us. We've been back over 4 years and I have no regrets

Thank you so much for sharing your story. That is helpful to read.

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Summersglow · 30/10/2025 22:21

SeaAndStars · 30/10/2025 20:41

I've moved house 16 times and I have a wobble like this every single time.

It's the upheaval and the unknown. Honestly, within a couple of weeks in your new house you'll have met your neighbours, found other new favourite places, have spent time with friends and family, had cups of tea and glasses of wine with them in your new kitchen. It will all be ok OP. You and your little one will have a fresh new start.

Oh this fills me with so much optimism actually. Your words are so kind and powerful and I do really like my new kitchen 😆.
Thank you so much.

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SeaAndStars · 08/11/2025 10:50

Morning @Summersglow . I was thinking about you this morning and hope your move went well. Sun's out here so I hope you're in your new kitchen, drinking coffee with the sun streaming in.

FuzzyWolf · 08/11/2025 11:01

Surely this is a stopgap move. You need to get away and somewhere has come up. You can save, get things organised and look out for the right place in the right area to move soon as soon as everything’s ready to go.

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Summersglow · 11/11/2025 20:12

SeaAndStars · 08/11/2025 10:50

Morning @Summersglow . I was thinking about you this morning and hope your move went well. Sun's out here so I hope you're in your new kitchen, drinking coffee with the sun streaming in.

Hello, thank you for messaging! So kind.
The move went great and we have settled in well. The quiet peacefulness is literally priceless and don't get me started on how good the wine (and coffee) tastes in the kitchen. 😂
Thank you ☆
I hope you're having a lovely week.

Ps, should add, in my adult life to date I have moved fourteen times. I always found it easy but for some reason this time I found it incredibly hard to come to a decision.
I think some of us were just destined to be on the move more than others. ✨️

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Summersglow · 11/11/2025 20:13

FuzzyWolf · 08/11/2025 11:01

Surely this is a stopgap move. You need to get away and somewhere has come up. You can save, get things organised and look out for the right place in the right area to move soon as soon as everything’s ready to go.

Great advice. Thank you 😊

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