Friend cancelled meet up last minute.

[MeDadMeDad]

Am I being too sensitive? I'm feeling a little upset as my friend cancelled plans last minute.
Was supposed to be meeting in the park with our 3 children as its half term here.
She cancelled last minute as she forgot and needs to wait in for a delivery.
She meets regularly with other friends in our circle, she goes pub, to others houses.
Feel upset because same thing happened not long ago as well.

Fair to be disappointed over it but it’s not something to be upset over. Did you rearrange?

@Coconutter24 no not rearranged anything yet.
I'm probably just being sensitive. I will try and rearrange.

Aw I don't blame you. Like you're an afterthought. I hope you have other friends.

To be fair to your friend every so often I get foot problems with plantar and cannot walk for a day or so so I always grin and bear with it if I am let down. Sometimes the situation cannot be helped.

I'd let her re-arrange tbh @MeDadMeDad especially if she's cancelled before.

If she doesn't, that'll give you the information you need for the future.

No let her rearrange.
You will know then if she really wants to meet.

She goes to the pub or to houses .... maybe hates the idea of hanging about in the cold?

The wind is bloody cold here today ...

I'd be a bit disappointed too.

I also agree with PP to leave it with her now - if she really wants to meet you, she'll message. If not, she's not a great friend.

Then she should say "no, let's do X instead" rather than ditch people last minute.

It happens as the delivery time could have changed or maybe urs a recent order.
However the polite way is for her to approach you about change of plan, explain the reason and offer a different time/ date.

Was she coming with her children or alone?

If she’s done this before then I’d message to say it was a shame she couldn’t meet but if she wants to rearrange then let you know and you’ll sort something. She will either plan something in with you and if she doesn’t then you know where you stand

Feel upset because same thing happened not long ago as well.
If it's the second time with her especially, do not rearrange anything, it's up to her.

I wouldn't be upset, but I hate flakey people, I wouldn't organise anything or invite her anywhere, no one "forgets" a delivery and cancel at teh last minute, she's just being lazy.

Sometimes people cancel with an excuse because something else is going on. Sometimes they've had a genuine problem crop up.

Then sometimes they are just messing you about.

Keep an open mind but let her lead the next arrangement. I wouldn't write someone off too quickly because life is not always straightforward.

@TomatoSandwiches was meeting up with my DD and her 2 DDs.

If she does it to you more than once, she's just rude. I d say waiting in delivery is a lame excuse too.

The test is don't rearrange with her.Let her get in contact with you.See what she does.

She should rearrange.

It is annoying when this happens but I would wait for her to offer to rearrange.

I agree with this. ^ Let HER re-arrange @MeDadMeDad

Sounds like she isn't arsed to be honest. Remembering (at the last minute!) that she has to wait in for a delivery is such a lame excuse to not come and meet you. And as she has done this before (recently) I would make ZERO effort to see her again.

How old are all the DDs … could they have said they didn’t want to go??

I’d be tempted to reply “Oh no problem, we’ll all come round to yours instead so you can be in for your delivery! See you soon”.

I think she’s saying you don’t matter to her, I’m sorry to say.

Could she have invited you to her house instead?
It sounds very flaky of her.
I would wait for her to rearrange/ suggest the next meeting. In the meantime focus on other friends and interests.

😁

Why can’t you go there? Why didn’t she offer?

Your being sensitive and over thinking. Leave her to re arrange and if she doesn't you know where you stand