Sorry for a long one. This situation is now resolved in that I left the company. But it keeps coming in my mind and I wanted to know if I was being unreasonable in being uncomfortable.
I started a job in an admin role and was fine for the first week. It was a small company with 9 staff, all female.
Then one of the bosses had a chat about the amount of time I was away from my desk. In the main I was going to the toilet or getting files. I take a diuretic for blood pressure which means I wee a lot (tmi sorry) but it didn't occur to me at the time of the convo. She asked if I smoked and I said I vaped, and I realised belatedly she was asking if I was going out to vape all the time. I wasn't! It made me feel weirdly watched tbh, there was no issue with my work as far as I knew.
Then the following week she took me aside and asked me to make sure I "clean the toilet" as they were a clean toilet firm and it had been left in a state. She was quick to say it may not have been me (it wasn't!) But AFAIK she didn't speak to anyone else. Again I felt weirdly under surveillance.
Then another day, still quite early on, she sent me a passive aggressive email about eating at my desk, saying I was giving younger staff a bad impression of how to behave in the office I had only had a mid morning cereal bar, but fair enough. I stopped doing it. But I noticed everyone else was eating at their desks except the bosses and no one was to my knowledge pulled up on it.
Then I got another passive aggressive email about recycling "pop bottles". Again I felt very under surveillance.
None of these things seem like a big deal but it was more this insidious way of sniping at me. I'm in my 40s and professional.
It was all part of my decision to quit, and when I did resign the boss emailed me to tell me to remove a "pop" bottle from my desk drawer on my last day. Which I would have done. But again I felt constantly watched and was glad to leave.
Am I being oversensitive?