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Neighbour's double standards & 2faced?

13 replies

cordiela · 28/10/2025 15:59

I thought I got on well with my neighbour, Facebook friends and would help her with small things when she asked me.

So my 8 year old sometimes leaves his bike on her drive way and she first started bad mouthing me before demanding that my son never puts anything there again as it makes it difficult for her to reverse in.

She would sometimes tell her visitors to park on my driveway and I didn't say anything even though I didn't like it.
When it was her son's birthday she put all bunting and balloons on my front door and the side of my house without asking me, but I didn't mind as it was her son's 1st birthday.

She also demanded that her other neighbour move bins away from her front door despite the bins not even being on her driveway, this neighbour now dosent speak to her because of other issues.
This other neighbour would her parcels in etc and then my neighbour excluded her from a neighbourhood WhatsApp group which I think was incredibly mean.

I am thinking of stepping back as well as I think she is 2 faced and has double standards.

AIBU?

OP posts:
Bluevelvetsofa · 28/10/2025 16:09

Is your driveway shared? Otherwise why was the bike left on her drive?

If you didn’t want her friends parking on your drive, why not tell her that and ask them not to.

Original poster
cordiela · 28/10/2025 16:11

No it isn't a shared driveway, but my front door overlooks one of her parking bays.

I know I should of said something at the time but I didn't want to be seen as awkward but I will definitely speak up next time and tell her.

OP posts:
Endofyear · 28/10/2025 19:18

Why is your 8 year old leaving his bike on her driveway?

HoppingPavlova · 28/10/2025 19:27

If your child is leaving their bike on her driveway (which is extremely rude by the way), then she can’t use the driveway so it’s only fair that any traffic for her driveway uses yours instead.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 28/10/2025 20:45

This started with your child leaving his bike on her drive? Why did you allow this?

Original poster
cordiela · 28/10/2025 23:40

No she had her visitors parking on my driveway way before my son started leaving bikes on her drive.

OP posts:
HoppingPavlova · 29/10/2025 01:22

What have you done about your son leaving his bike there? You seem unbothered by this, which seems strange given it’s pretty universally accepted that this is not a socially acceptable thing to do.

Fuzzywoo · 29/10/2025 01:45

So, OP's son shouldn't leave his bike on the neighbour's driveway. OP agrees and is trying to get her child not to do it.

However, the neighbour thinks it is okay to festoon OP's door and wall with decorations for her own child's birthday and have her visitors regularly use OP's driveway, all without first getting OP's permission.

So the neighbour thinks whats mine is mine and whats yours I can do what I like to. What a cheek!

Unfortunately, OP needs to grow a backbone and tell her neighbour that she needs to keep to her own property and her and her son will keep to theirs. Then keep your distance.

TheSandgroper · 29/10/2025 03:57

Child and bike aside, if you act like a doormat, don’t be surprised if people wipe their feet on you.

It’s time you took the advice of a previous Australian Prime Minister and looked after Self Interest because as sure as shit, no one else will.

Barnbrack · 29/10/2025 05:14

After your child has been riding his bike you go out and bring it in like any normal person surely?

Original poster
cordiela · 29/10/2025 10:52

So the kids have only been playing since their bikes since March time when the weather got warmer, she has been having her visitors park since last October.

The would be left there in between playing but are brought in at the end of the day.

Her mum and sister came round last night and her sister attempted to park on my other space (saw this on the Ring door bell ) I came out and told them to stop doing it and to use their own spaces or park on the road side as everyone does when they have visitors.

She came out and began huffing and puffing and giving me dirty looks, she is actually quite a passive aggressive woman and I can see why the other neighbour actively dislikes her.

I won't have much to do with her after this.

OP posts:
dontmalbeconme · 29/10/2025 11:10

If your DS is repeatedly leaving his bike in her space you don't have the moral high ground you seem to think you have, OP.

Get your DS to leave his bike in your spare space. Solves the problem of people parking in your spare space and also the problem of your son inconveniencing her by constantly blocking her space in one really easy move. And understand that you have both been inconsiderate neighbours, and that needs to change.

Tessasanderson · 01/11/2025 09:11

Why do people get so tangled up in their neighbours business. Simple, just ignore her and move on. Leave the whatsapp group (Localised bullying) and tell your children not to ever leave their bike on her drive again.

From that point onwards if she ever lets a visitor park on your drive or puts something on your house, tell her straight to remove it.

Life is easier without getting dragged into other peoples games.

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