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My “mum friend” didn’t get my child a birthday card

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Hesxboon · 28/10/2025 14:01

I have a friend who’s also a mom to 3 young children. September was her sons birthday and we do buy each others gifts/ cards every year as we’ve known each other years. Last week was my child’s birthday, she text happy birthday which was nice. We met yesterday for a coffee and play date with the kids. But nothing, no card or mention of did “””” enjoy their birthday?
I find it odd as she usually asks, gives a card and present, I don’t ever expect a present but I feel a bit hurt she didn’t even bother with a card from the kids. She’s got nothing going on that I know of and seemed fine. I’ve noticed she seems a bit bitter about other friends of hers lately and regularly slags them off to me. I just don’t know if I’m being unreasonable, she’s the type of person to buy in advance too, so I don’t think she’d forgotten either.

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Veronicasharmonica · 29/10/2025 19:42

Maybe she’s busy and completely forgot.

this is something I would do.

Hesxboon · 29/10/2025 21:03

I looked back to our text messages from a few weeks ago and she specifically said she’d got my son a birthday present while we were chatting about Christmas. I think she’s been a little off lately too, maybe she just has a lot going on so I’m going to not mention but yes from now I think I’ll stop with the presents. Thankyou for all your replies

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August1980 · 29/10/2025 22:52

Don’t waste energy on this. She didn’t get a card or mention anything after the birthday about the birthday but she did say happy birthday on the actual birthday.
i am not fussed by giving or getting cards so this isn’t an issue. She doesn’t owe you an explanation why she isn’t doing cards anymore etc. just move on or don’t be friends with her if card giving is a deal breaker for you.

Aplstrudl · 03/01/2026 09:08

did you give/receive Xmas presents from her OP?

SomethingRattling · 03/01/2026 09:22

From what you say I think she was going to give a present and completely forgot to hand it over . Could she be peri? I would mention it as in : Hope you don't mind me saying but I think you said you bought Lucy a birthday present and we haven't received one. Absolutely fine if I got that wrong and you're not doing gifts this year, but I thought I should mention it
in case it went astray.

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