To be shocked that DS1 disclosed tonight that one of the gang bullying him at school is a girl ?

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for him whomever is bullying him. He is only 8 and we have Had Trouble with one of the boys bullying him before.

However tonight he told me that the bullying has restarted with a vengeance - named the boy plus two others ,a girl and a boy, who wrestle him to the one part of the playground that is not easily visble to the Lunchtime supervisors, and kick and punch him .

Have had the talk about shouting 'NO', 'How dare you hurt me' and running away, to get help and am planning to go into school to alert teacher in the morning [petrified].

But the thing I cannot get my head around is that a girl is involved. I know girls can be mean and bitchy, but kicking and punching ?

AIBU to be horrified ?

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YANBU but I don't think it's so unusual these days.

Our poor kids... what they go through. So glad you are going to take action on this - really hope things pick up for your ds soon.

Not at all. Sometimes girls can be worse because they also seem to know what to say as they're putting the boot in. I was bullied by both at school. I'm so sorry for your DS- it's hateful to be the one that's being bullied. Will you arrange a meeting with the school?

Thanks for messages.

I shall nip in tomorrow morning, give school the heads-up that trouble is under way again.
They were very supportive last time, and encouraged me to notify if it started up again, so am confident that school will implement their anti-bullying policy.

He is such a softie, a very gentle boy, it breaks my heart really.

Awww

how did it go?

Oh Boys, I've just seen this.
How upsetting for you all .
Hope DS1 is OK.

YANBU to be horrified, but im not entirely surprised really, girls can be really spiteful. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. Please get it stopped ASAP, i would request a meeting with the head tbh. Just so you know what their action plan would be. Ahh, see you already have the school on side.

Don't be sad that your little lad is a "softie"...if being a softie means he doesn't deliberately hurt other people, you should be proud of him. I think it shows a deeper intelligence not to be dragged into the gangs etc - good on him.

The shocking thing is the bullying itself. Not the gender of the perpetrators. There were always girls like this: I remember it from my schooldays in the '70's and was reading a biography from the 1920's yesterday in which the girls were very nastily physical.
Hope the school will be able to improve matters and that your son regains his confidence.