To think we might complain too much about our neighbours?

[MyAmusedOpalCrab]

Every other day there seems to be a thread about loud kids, smells from BBQs, someone parking in the wrong spot or even people walking too heavily in flats. I get that some things are genuinely disruptive but sometimes I wonder if we‘ve become a bit too sensitive or entitled when it comes to how others live their lives next door.

AIBU to think a little tolerance might go a long way? Or is neighbour drama just part of life?

I mean, if you click on a thread about annoying neighbours, you're bound to get comments about other annoying neighbours?

My personal reality is that I've never had an issue with my neighbours.

You would if you lived next to mine.

I live in London and like both lots of neighbours. Today I met up with my ex next door neighbour from 20 odd years ago. Life long friends. Mind you.., the people they bought from were neighbours from hell.

I have great neighbours, very different from me and my family but we help each other out, and are on good terms. As with all relationships I am sure I get on their nerves sometimes and they get on mine maybe but the good outweighs the bad and we remember we are not all the same. Better than being rude and confrontational, too exhausting.

There is absolutely nothing good with mine.

Its said that high fences make for good neighbour relationships. Have as little to do with them as possible and get a ring door bell.

Well we try and keep noise to a minimum for our neighbours sake there is no need to make deliberate noise juat because that is what neighbours do

So maybe if people decided to be better neighbours there would be less complaints

Neighbours get worse with the nicer weather. Barbeques and louder noise.

It’s annoying having to live next door to someone who actively enjoys burning things, particularly plastic for some reason.

Same. Ours likes shoving poison pen letters through letterboxes. His latest one was complaining that our bird feeder meant that birds FLEW OVER HIS HOUSE. It was accompanied by various threats about reporting us to the council.

My neighbours can be a bit of a pain in the neck, but I’m sure they feel the same about me at times.

Nothing much, just minor irritations. .

So, we all take the ‘live and let live’ view. 👍

I think it’s the consequence of humans being crammed close together.
I would much rather live in a house surrounded by my own private land, than close to other people. The only thing stopping me is the cost.
Then again, according to dh I'm quite anti- social!
I’m very grateful that my closest neighbour is a single woman who works full time. No pets or children living with her, ideal for me.

Try living next to mine. Who bought a Belgian malinois off gumtree yet have no clue how to train a dog. They let it bark constantly out of the window at any moving object outside, let it run my fences throwing itself at them.
They let it lunge and bark at my kids and refuse to muzzle it. I can’t leave the house or it goes ballistic at the windows like I’m under surveillance. Sometimes I hear them shout a half hearted ‘dogs name’ but other than that they don’t even walk it other than a trip to the field over the road where they just let it go and hope it won’t come across someone and maul them.

Cant stand them!

I have always been respectful and considerate to my neighbours. I occasionally put their bins out and bring in. I keep my tv and music on low always. Make as little noise as possible. I keep the joining archway clear. They are total opposite.

Neighbours on one side are a bit untidy and I used to quietly bitch about it. Then I just sort of conceded that the problem of being annoyed is mine and so the best thing to do is fix it myself. Now I mow their front lawn when I do my own, retrieve their bins along with mine, and just get on with doing the communal outdoor repairs. I’m happy, and that’s all that matters.

I wonder if a lot of it is that peoples lifestyles mean neighbours often don’t get to know each other and therefore communicate as they used to. If you don’t know who lives around you and don’t speak to them, you’re less minded to do things like let them know you’re having a party / will be blocking the road with your tarmac delivery / lighting a bonfire at 4pm so should move drying laundry. We have a great street with a WhatsApp group where neighbours do do that sort of stuff, and it’s all very jolly and harmonious.

Expecting reasonable standards of behaviour, not wanting people to be taking illegal drugs and the result including Mexicans and other people being killed in large numbers, wanting adequate driving standards, basic peace and quiet, all seem an expectation that is fair.

Where there are bad neighbours or so-called neighbours from hell, there should be action, if needs be by police or other authorities. An example is that taking illegal drugs should mean no driving licence.

It is also unreasonable that you have to declare any neighbour disputes when selling a house. What you should have to declare should be limited.

My neighbours always tell me when they are having a party. That's for sure. I hear mine coming home as the dogs bark for ages. The woman is often sunbathing out the front. None of them say hello. They would only say hello if I said it first so stopped. I may tidy up the arch for them. I believe the local tip takes electrical items like lawn mowers and chain saws.