Ds13 and I have always been fairly close but since starting high school he has totally changed. I don’t know how much of it is typical teen behaviour and how much is him being a bit ungrateful and rude.
He just doesn’t seem to care about us at all. I booked the day off work today as he’s spending most of the week at his dad’s. Took him out for breakfast, bought him some new trainers, he was moody and horrible to his younger sibling (granted they are much younger and quite annoying but he generally has very little time patience for them).
Got home and he skulked off and I basically said he could try to be a little more grateful, he said he never asked for the trainers and take them back if I want to (he did ask for them).
Whenever I try to do anything with him (one on one or as a family) he has no interest. He spends most of his time in his room on his phone or games console. He doesn’t seem to care much about anyone. I remember at his age I was very self obsessed but it was more because I was only interested in my then boyfriend or going out with friends. Ds does have friends and does a lot of sport, but no girlfriend and no pressing matters that mean he has to isolate himself from us so much.
I don’t want to have a go at him because as I said he is going to his dads and I won’t see him for almost a week so don’t want to leave it on a sour note.
Do I just ride this out? It’s very hurtful. I feel like I’ve always been lenient on him and perhaps spoiled him with material things a bit. But only through love and because generally he’s always been a good lad - sensible at school, kind to friends etc.