Is this a sign or am I losing the plot??

[Betty1305]

Looks like me and DH are going to be separating. I wanted it to work but it’s all gone to shit and he doesn’t want to salvage it.

To try and get myself moving forward and feeling like I’m taking some control, I went to see a property to buy for myself (when ours is sold but it’s not on the market yet). It’s back where I grew up and close to my family.
I felt a real connection to the house when looking at the photos online and even more so when I viewed it. Spoke to my mum and she said that she thought my grandma’s grandparents had lived in the same row of houses.
I decided to look up the history on ancestry and it turns out my 2nd, 3rd and 4th great grandparents lived in that exact house!!

My grandma passed away in August and I’m feeling this is a sign from her to push forward and go for house. She would be so upset to see how my husband is treating me.

Am I being a bit daft or is this a sign to go for it and push to sell my property very quickly so I can buy it??

What are you waiting for :)

Will your ex be up for putting the property on the market this quickly? I think you should go for it.

It's either a sign or a wonderful coincidence. Get going!

Have you actually sat down and looked at what the financial agreement would be if you guys split?

It sounds nice in theory, however if you haven't properly sorted out the financials it could end up a bigger mess down the line

Some call it a blood-connection :)
Definitely go for it if you can, how wonderful

@walkawayytime
The house was bought 50:50 and all of our finances are 50:50 too. We don’t have any children together so it would be a straightforward split financially.
I feel like I need something to push me and this is it….I’m not the most proactive at the best of times.

Definitely synchronicity, meaningful coincidence. Go for it

Love a sign, this is absolutely a sign!

I'd disregard the 'sign' stuff, at least to the point where I'm not overlooking problems with the house. Heart as well as head here. It's irrelevant whether all your ancestors lived there if it's full of asbestos and has structural issues.

Is your soon to be ex prepared to move fast to sell your current home?

It’s lovely you have that connection (and I do believe in signs!) but when it’s probably the biggest purchase you’ll make in your life are you sure that it’s the right house in all the other ways? Location, size, garden, need for updating etc (which I’m sure you’re well aware of.)

But yes, if it fits the bill in as many ways as possible I’d be moving heaven and earth to get that house!

Thank you for your replies.
I’m going for a second viewing this weekend so will have a really good inspection.
Soon to be ex is being pretty cold and has agreed to sell asap.
I feel like I need to act in my best interests and get something to focus on. I’m so sad about how things have turned out.

Good luck with the viewing @Betty1305 , and do post an update! 🤞

I try not to believe in signs...but you can't get more signy then that 😂

Imagine the warmth of that house, when becomes your new
-old home....like a hug from grandma

I don’t know if I believe in signs or not, but I do believe in feeling like a home has a nice atmosphere and I’d really love the idea of a historical connection to it.

I really hope it all works out for you but don’t set 100% of your heart on it, just in case it turns out it would be a money pit, or someone beats you to it before your finances are sorted, as you’ll be upset far more than any other house. Maybe look at it that it’s a sign that moving on is the right thing to do, even if that particular house isn’t for you. And then, if you get it, you can celebrate accordingly. Fingers crossed for you!

A little update….
I went with my mum and sister to see the house again today. I still loved it and so did they.
I’ve put an initial offer in. It’s below the offers over asking price but it does need a new boiler, flooring and some TLC. I think the owner will want more and I am prepared to increase my offer.
Wish me luck 🍀

Good luck. Grandma's are the best imo. Mine gave me money for a rental when I left exh. I couldn't have afforded it otherwise...
I am now a dgm and it's quite a title to live up to.