Someone special to me died and I’m not going to bother telling my husband

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She was such an intelligent, warm, grounded person. I have such fond memories of her as a child.

I wish I had someone to share this sadness with. Even just a short conversation, I’d hope for so little these days. But I just know that if I try to share something it’ll be made to feel stupid, irrelevant somehow. And I can’t be bothered with being dismissed all the time.

Your husband will belittle you for losing someone close to you?

I'm very sorry for your loss and for the loneliness of not being able to share it.

On the surface, that sounds unreasonable, but we don't know your dh.

If a dear friend of mine died, even if dh didn't know them, he would be empathetic and support me to grieve. He would listen when I told him about my friend. He would support me to attend the funeral (looking after dc etc).

But I just know that if I try to share something it’ll be made to feel stupid, irrelevant somehow. And I can’t be bothered with being dismissed all the time.

This ^ sounds like a big issue, which has nothing to do with your bereavement, but needs to be addressed.

I’m so sorry for your loss 💐
He doesn’t sound worthy of telling, so tell us about her if you want to.

You can tell us if you’d like? She sounds wonderful

I’m so tired of feeling this lonely! I actually used to be a very confident, easy going person. Now I expect everyone to ignore me because that’s what I get at home.

Sorry about your friend.

You should not be made to feel like this in your own home (or ever). Is divorce an option?

I am sorry that you have lost a friend of many years standing. Over the last 3 years I have lost 2 friends, my wife understands completely about the one. She knew the other but does not understand how I feel about him passing. Partly I find it difficult to put into words myself. I didn't see him often I knew him and his wife before I married.

YANBU to not open up to someone who is emotionally unavailable and/or unsafe, no.

But you do need an outlet somewhere.

I’m sorry you lost someone who meant a lot to you. But even strangers will listen if you want them to and you want to talk about her here? Support can be found in many ways

Your friend sounds lovely (unlike your H), do you want to tell us a little about her?

Sorry for your loss ,you are a lovely person for caring so much about your friend. I send my thoughts to you.

Oh op I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your lovely friend. She sounds great.

Im also sorry to hear that your DP is do nasty to you. Do you think you’d be less lonely by yourself?