Me and DH have been married for 4 years and together for 14. Always had a pretty steady sex life. Both of us have ups and downs with MH so understandably sex life can be put on the back burner during down episodes. Recently DH has been snappy and temperamental with mood. We have 2 young DCs for context. So my issue is; in the day when DC are around, so eg earlier I'm cooking dinner, DCs are playing and DH is in the kitchen helping me, he's all flirty and pretty much stating we're going to be having sex later etc. Fast forward to when the kids are in bed and he's completely shutting down and no flirting whatsoever and clearly not wanting sex. Now I'm fine with not being in the mood but what I'm not ok with is hinting heavily at it but then when it's actually a good time then completely shutting it down. I've always had terrible self esteem having suffered an ED twice and been hospitalised for it so AIBU for feeling rubbish that I'm being shut down and for feeling unattractive and not good enough? This has happened on multiple occasions recently.
NB I posted before but got very confused with magaing to reply to other posts on my own so have started again