AIBU for feeling not good enough?

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Me and DH have been married for 4 years and together for 14. Always had a pretty steady sex life. Both of us have ups and downs with MH so understandably sex life can be put on the back burner during down episodes. Recently DH has been snappy and temperamental with mood. We have 2 young DCs for context. So my issue is; in the day when DC are around, so eg earlier I'm cooking dinner, DCs are playing and DH is in the kitchen helping me, he's all flirty and pretty much stating we're going to be having sex later etc. Fast forward to when the kids are in bed and he's completely shutting down and no flirting whatsoever and clearly not wanting sex. Now I'm fine with not being in the mood but what I'm not ok with is hinting heavily at it but then when it's actually a good time then completely shutting it down. I've always had terrible self esteem having suffered an ED twice and been hospitalised for it so AIBU for feeling rubbish that I'm being shut down and for feeling unattractive and not good enough? This has happened on multiple occasions recently.

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I’m so confused, did you reply to yourself?

Is this a genuine thread?

Yes, this!

I managed to add a full stop to another message somehow. And was trying to add a response to another post by another user and somehow posted on my own. I'm not doing too well here but definitely a genuine thread I'm just a bit of a dinosaur

I see you've edited your original post, OP - you do realise it can still be seen if you click on the "Edited" box? What were you hoping to achieve anyway, acting as your own sock puppet?

Aha, I see you've clarified it now. Apologies, but MN has a lot of that sort of nonsense.

Sorry for confusion. I posted and then found a post similar to mine so tried to post on that and somehow ended up replying to myself hence the edit. Definitely a genuine post have nothing to gain whatsoever by making up some rubbish. Just want to know if I'm in the wrong here or if I'm right to feel crap about the situation

Have you talked to him about it?

I don’t imagine he’s the only parent that feels horny in the day time but then feel too tired by the time the kids are in bed.

Ahh ok thank you for explaining.

I don’t think you’re in the wrong, and you most definitely are good enough.

Is this a pattern for him? Do his moods often change and he becomes snappy and moody? It doesn’t sound like a great relationship OP x

On the whole he's an amazing partner and father. He's got some stuff going on at work which I understand is affecting him and I'd totally get if he wasn't in the mood at all. It's the hot and cold that's getting to me and the fact he knows I've always suffered with not feeling enough. Thank you for your kind words. I think we do need to have am open talk about how we're both feeling and why