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Staying in car park

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Uppabye · 26/10/2025 10:29

My 3yo has just started a drop-off gymnastics class at a local community school, and my husband and I alternate who brings her. There are lots of sports/classes going on in the complex (e.g. training and matches that lots of parents are watching etc) so the car park can get busy.

When I drop her in, I leave my car parked in the car park and walk across the road to a cafe and sit for 45 minutes having a coffee before going back to collect her.

My husband thinks it's rude to take up a space in the busy car park during this time, and will move the car - either across the road to the cafe which often doesn't have parking outside as it's busy, in which case he drives further away to a quieter cafe for half an hour before returning to the school and having the stress of finding a space again before our daughter's class finishes.

I feel that as my daughter is literally having a class in the complex, it's ok to leave my car there for that time. I would never leave it there after the class and bring her out for breakfast or anything as I would agree that's inconsiderate. But I feel at 3yo she won't understand if we're late to collect her because of parking and she would get really upset. I never park in parent/child space if my toddlers aren't with me, as an example of how generally considerate I am 😅

This isn't an actual argument between us btw (it's not that big 😂) I'm just wondering where other people fall on our perspectives?

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jeaux90 · 26/10/2025 10:31

He’s being a nitwit.

CharlieKirkRIP · 26/10/2025 10:31

Your husband is being utterly ridiculous.

He’s being a Timothy.

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 26/10/2025 10:32

It sounds like he wants to make life unnecessarily hard for himself. Is this a common theme?

rainbowsparkle28 · 26/10/2025 10:33

Why is he making life so much more difficult for himself?! Absolutely would do what you are doing.

Uppabye · 26/10/2025 10:36

Oh these first few responses have made me chuckle. He definitely experiences social anxiety particularly around getting in other people's way or inconveniencing them (which is exactly how he experiences the car park situation).

We're going on a plane journey with our 2 toddlers in a few months. God help him 🤣

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