Naming my baby the same name as relative's child

[Sweetdaisy90]

Hi all, not a big issue at all but just posting for opinions.

I'm due a baby soon, dont know the gender. Dh and I have decided on two names for a boy or girl. There is a name we both adore. My cousin's child who is 15 has the same name. I am close to this cousin though we live very far away so our kids would never meet really.

Would it be weird to call my baby the same name as my cousins daughter. I do feel a bit unsure, dh isnt worried at all.

As i said, its not a big deal in the grand scheme of aibu's but if your cousin did this, would you be ok with it? Thanks for reading.

I think duplicating names in the same generation of family is weird. It’s different if other you’re naming after a parent / grandparent etc.

As I've said before, I had two cousins, one on each side of the family, with the same male name, with my name as the female version, so we all had the same diminutive form, something like NIcky/Nikki.
Caused no problems at all, especially as the two boys rarely met; occasional need to clarify which one we meant.

I think you’re fine OP. I recently called my third DC a name I’ve loved for years but held off because of an in-law connection. We went for it as we’d used all the other names we loved and I just couldn’t see us using any other name - it’s not a problem, the children will never see each other.

I also know sisters who are close and used the names Jacob and Jake respectively. Go for the name you love. If someone used one of my kids names I would only see it as a compliment. Also congratulations!

I have cousins with the same name as me, and some of them have children with the same name. It never occurred to me that it was unusual. Why would it be a problem?

Would they have the same last name? If not, go for it.

My cousin named his daughter the same name as me. There is a large age gap and they live a long way away but even if that wasn't the case it still wouldn't have bothered me. Also I assume he wouldn't have used the name if it reminded him of a cousin he hated so that's nice in a way!

Same as our family both sides aswell. 2 have never met and the other 2 see each other occasionally like Christmas and we just call them big Harry and little Harry

It's fine.

It doesn’t matter. Names are not that unique anyway. Call your sc what you want.

No, I wouldn’t worry about this at all.

It might be nice to ask, but then what if the relative said she'd prefer if you didnt...

Names don't belong to anyone. My cousin and his mum (my aunt) threw an almighty strop when another cousin named their daughter a similar name to his daughter. Fast forward a few years, his oldest son has named their daughter exactly the same name as my daughter.
I am not in any way bothered, except at the hypocrisy.

do it

diana had the same name as her cousin and best friend

I have the same name as my cousin. Didn't bother me as a child or now as an adult.

I wouldn't use it in that case.