To move back "home" or is this going to be a disaster

[Sunshineontheroof]

I'm from abroad and lived in the UK for 12 years. Made my family here, lovely job and husband. We always planned to go back where I come from however could never find adequate jobs so we stayed here in UK (and we're very happy). Out of nowhere a job opportunity for my DH has come up near where I am from, however:

• it's a terrible commute( he works from home at the moment so no commuting cost and lots of family time)
• I wouldn't be able to work anymore as school hours are significantly shorter over there and my DS is still young

-the only real reason we want to go there is being nearer to my family

Thoughts? Is it too much of a risk to go?

Can’t you just wait for a more suitable job opportunity?

Its a very rural area to say the least - its beautiful (don't want to be too outing) but it's highly unlikely something else will come up. Most people from my old home, stay in the same company most of their lives (if they are in a high paying profession/ academics). So a job with a huge commute is probably as good as is going to get for DH who's in a bit of a niche field

I wonder if anyone else on here has done a similar move and can tell me their honest experience?

Sounds risky. If he loses that job his chances of securing another are slim.

You need to write down incomings and outgoings for both places..... Also pro and con list.
Could you live comfortably there without you working?
Where has better education?
Where is safer? (Less crime etc)

You like your life here in the UK and you're very happy. You have a lovely job and your husband has no commute. Your home country offers no realistic employment for you and what sounds like a bit of a nightmare for your DH. You also say employment is generally limited, so little scope for you and big problems if your DH loses the role he's been offered. On the face of it, just being nearer family doesn't outweight the negatives.

My cousin moved ‘home’ for his wife (Australia). Kids were two under 5.

the moving costs were enormous, rentals were expensive and hard to get, and like you, the commute was longer than anticipated. The family they hoped to have around all the time, also had jobs and commutes, so they didn’t really see them as often as the ‘Disney Dream’ imagined.
Short story…after exactly 12 months they returned to UK (luckily they hadn’t sold their house), got the eldest back into school, got new jobs in the UK and did a full reset. I think ‘home’ is a mindset, home is what you make it.

The grass is not always greener.

Thank you so much for your reply. It's a high income country where I am from and jobs are good, but the economy is much different to here and there aren't the same amount of companies/ varieties in jobs, if that makes sense. The overall quality of life is one of the best in the world but we've been so lucky with DS school, made wonderful friends etc that I'm really scared of losing all this!

Oh wow good job they hadn't sold their house! I bet a move to Australia costs a fortune..... thank you for sharing this!

Giving up a job you love and not being able to have a job in the other country would be a deal breaker for me.