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For not paying nearly £20 for a second hand coat?

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Sbrown32 · 25/10/2025 16:09

So, today I went charity shopping for the first time in a while as I needed a winter coat for the last few months of my pregnancy. I found a really lovely one that I wanted, it was a nice colour and the quality wasn't to bad, a few imperfections but overall I was happy, until I went to go look at the price 🙃 £18.50!! I don't know if I am just being cheap but that seemed expensive for anything second hand!

Most of my clothes are second hand and I rarely buy brand new, I am used to paying a few £ for any item of clothing and have gotten many coats in the past for £5 - £10 depending on type of coat. I just can't get over it and may have embarrassed the OH with my rant inside the store 🤣

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ttcat37 · 25/10/2025 17:00

I work it out by weekly cost. If you’ve got 3 months of pregnancy/ wearing the coat left, it works out at £1.50 a week. Then you can sell it, and it’s cost you even less.

Enrichetta · 25/10/2025 17:02

most stuff that gets donated to charity shops is not good enough to be sold. If they started to put any old garments on the shop floor, people would stop buying. Who has time to rummage through 90% rubbish to try and find something they like.

Charity shops actually don’t make a lot of money, and some charities are closing many of their shops.

£18 for a coat in good condition seems very reasonable indeed - potentially a bargain if it has a high wool content, especially if it is a high-value brand.

Sbrown32 · 25/10/2025 17:03

SamphiretheTervosaur · 25/10/2025 16:51

I once bought a £20 coat from a charity shop in Cheltenham. Lambswool double breasted, still had a racing ticket in the pocket 😀

I wore it for years, quite ruined it! I'd buy another if I could. But I know what you mean. Charity shop prices are rising, quality is dipping... our local ones are all having a rethink, trying to find ways to support families, using those of us with a bit more spare cash to support them more. They too are quite depressed about it!

We have a few charity shops near me, some are really good and some are expensive. We have one that is my favourite where everything is £3 max so you don't have to stress to much about looking at the price but then we have some that are just (in my opinion) ridiculously priced!

Its sad really, people are going to things like Vinted and it takes away from the charity but I do see why....

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Hons123 · 25/10/2025 17:03

I prefer buying second hand coats, jackets, etc. if in a decent condition, and for those I would not mind paying £20 or £40 or £100 simply because you can't compare the quality then and now. They don't have to be vintage Aquascutum, etc. to be good - lots of handmade, no brand vintage coats and jackets are vastly superior to the contemporary ones, lining-stitching-fabric-hardware. Sometimes they have a 'Made in England' label on them, sometimes nothing at all.

tuvamoodyson · 25/10/2025 17:04

I tried on a beautiful rust coloured wool/cashmere, wrap coat in our local
charity shop yesterday, unfortunately it was just too oversized for me…£15. I was so disappointed!

WhereAreMyKids · 25/10/2025 17:08

I don't know if you're planning on using baby slings but I used my pregnancy coat through that stage to keep DC zipped in during winter. Got a good few years outta it that way.

Sbrown32 · 25/10/2025 17:09

Starlight7080 · 25/10/2025 16:54

But it isnt cheap . A charity shop used to be for people who could not afford much at all. So best part of 20 to most may be nothing . But to someone who may only have 40 for food for the week then 20 is a hell of a lot.
Not to mention charity shops get all of the stock for free. And having spoken to people who volunteer they often have full stock rooms with bags and bags of clothing . And turn lots away.
Maybe they would shift more stock and not be closing so many if they reduced the prices and sold more . Like they used to.

I agree with this, I grow up shopping in charity shops due to us having no money and was speaking to my mum about it today. You used to get some nice clothes for £1 - £2 ect and I would rather spend money in the charity shop to help out a good cause etc. We have a charity shop that has everything's for £3 or less and its always busy and always asking for stock, I have found some really nice things and some stuff that I still have a few years later.

I know the cost of living has gone up, keeping stores open have become more expensive but you're more likely to sell more at a cheaper price that having it on the shelves or like you said handing it back etc.

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Sbrown32 · 25/10/2025 17:11

WhereAreMyKids · 25/10/2025 17:08

I don't know if you're planning on using baby slings but I used my pregnancy coat through that stage to keep DC zipped in during winter. Got a good few years outta it that way.

I didn't actually think of this, I do have a baby sling that I plan on using! Thanks for the advice

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FrodoBiggins · 25/10/2025 17:11

Sbrown32 · 25/10/2025 16:39

I think, because I know its only going to be used for a few months it just seemed expensive.

Are you not expecting to be with us next winter 😥

Nanny0gg · 25/10/2025 17:11

Sbrown32 · 25/10/2025 16:39

I think, because I know its only going to be used for a few months it just seemed expensive.

Why won't you use it for a few years?

LillyPJ · 25/10/2025 17:12

I wouldn't normally pay more than £3 or £4 for something in a charity shop, but a few months ago I did buy a coat for £20! I went back a few times before I finally decided to have it. It was wool and I loved the colour and found out it would have been about £300 new, so £20 didn't seem so bad. I even spent another £16 having it dry cleaned.

museumum · 25/10/2025 17:14

If it was originally £35 from new look then no. But if it’s a £100+ coat then that price is absolutely fine.

FrodoBiggins · 25/10/2025 17:14

FrodoBiggins · 25/10/2025 17:11

Are you not expecting to be with us next winter 😥

Ah sorry just saw you're expecting! Congrats.
As others said it depends on the brand. I've bought a second hand coat for £60 before (Jaegar, pure wool)

Londonmummy66 · 25/10/2025 17:16

I paid that 30 years ago for a charity shop coat. TBF it was a Harris Tweed Dior coat but it has been well worth it - I've lived and died in it for the intervening years and the only thing I've had to do is dry clean it occasionally and get the sleeves relined as they were gone at the cuffs.

LillyPJ · 25/10/2025 17:16

Starlight7080 · 25/10/2025 16:54

But it isnt cheap . A charity shop used to be for people who could not afford much at all. So best part of 20 to most may be nothing . But to someone who may only have 40 for food for the week then 20 is a hell of a lot.
Not to mention charity shops get all of the stock for free. And having spoken to people who volunteer they often have full stock rooms with bags and bags of clothing . And turn lots away.
Maybe they would shift more stock and not be closing so many if they reduced the prices and sold more . Like they used to.

The purpose of a charity shop isn't to provide stuff for people who haven't got much money - it's to raise money for the charity. If they've got something rare or valuable, they're not going to give it away cheap!

clary · 25/10/2025 17:16

Yes as others say, what was the brand and what sort of quality?

I would happily pay that for a good quality wool coat; for one from Asda, not so much. I've sold a coat on eBay which had cost me £150 in TKMaxx but I only wore it once or twice – think I got about £30 for it maybe? I reckon a brand new item still boxed – possibly 40-50% of price; something that has been used, even if barely, drops it to 20-25% max.

Sbrown32 · 25/10/2025 17:19

tuvamoodyson · 25/10/2025 16:58

Perhaps it was an expensive brand? So £18.50 may have been very reasonable? Why did you feel you needed to rant inside the shop?? Just put the coat back and walk out, no need for a tantrum!

See I am not into brands, I just see something I like and if its a good price I buy it etc. I didn't have a tantrum 🤣 I had a little rant plus I am pregnant so you know hormones may have contributed a little?

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Tiredofwhataboutery · 25/10/2025 17:19

CraftyNavySeal · 25/10/2025 16:59

The sole purpose of a charity shop is to raise money for the charity, not to provide people with cheap clothes or even to sell all the clothes.

They need to stock the stores with what will get them the most money. Trying to sell lots of items for a quid is a waste of their time.

There’s a local thrift shop that charities, groups and organisations take over for the week. We sell loads of clothing and everything else for £1, it’s great as reduces waste, provides money for whoever is fundraising that week and offers an affordable option for people.

In exchange there is lots of community goodwill, I volunteered there last week and donations of clean, ironed clothes were regularly dropped off. People brought in unwanted gifts as prizes for the tombola.

We made £2k (after rent/ expenses) for the week which is a decent amount for our small organisation. I do think there is space for a pile it high sell it cheaply type places that are working for the benefit of community as well as fundraising.

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 25/10/2025 17:19

Sbrown32 · 25/10/2025 16:53

🤣 its a fair point you made I suppose. I have no argument other than I wasn't hysterical more shocked/annoyed.

Personally, I don't spend a lot of money on clothes but me and my partner sitting down to watch a film and getting a takeaway means a lot to me and is worth the price (whilst we have the money to be able to do so). Priorities I guess.

I have a similar problem, I lose sight of the price of things. I now think, how many takeaways is that or just as relevant, how many pints of beer is that? - looking at you DH!

PrincessofWells · 25/10/2025 17:24

I spent £40 on a wool Toast coat from Vinted and a Kin rain jacket for £15. Both bargains, so I suppose it depends how you value what you wear. The Toast coat was probably £300 new and the Kin £100 so . . .

tommyhoundmum · 25/10/2025 17:25

I paid £35 years ago for a black cashmere overcoat from Harrods. It is very warm, but I hardly ever wear it, prefering instead to wear loads of layers and long wool scarves

AliceMaforethought · 25/10/2025 17:25

Tiredofwhataboutery · 25/10/2025 16:16

I think in general I’m willing to pay up to 20% of the original value of a second hand item in good condition. I prefer to pay closer to 10% if I can. So if it was £100~ 150 originally I’d definitely consider it however I’d be happier if it was £150+ originally.

That's not how it works for high end stuff.

clary · 25/10/2025 17:26

sorry I see the OP has answered my questions while I was forgetting to refresh!

DanielleVanWyk · 25/10/2025 17:27

It depends on the type of coat tbh.

AliceMaforethought · 25/10/2025 17:29

Sbrown32 · 25/10/2025 16:39

I think, because I know its only going to be used for a few months it just seemed expensive.

That's not the shop's fault, though, is it? Obviously you don't have to pay more than what you want to pay, but your pregnancy is hardly factored into how they price their clothes.