To think nobody would believe this

[Kimkay]

So ex and I split recently (about 6 months ago) together 20 years and 2 kids. 2 weeks after the relationship ended he was picking the kids up in another women’s car and going on play dates with her. The women is his best friends sister so they used to go out a lot together gigs etc whilst I was at home oblivious looking after the kids. He swears this did not start beforehand but I am really struggling to believe that. He said they just decided to give it a try?

Men always seem to move on quickly after a relationship break down. Doesn’t necessarily mean he was cheating with her before the split.

I can believe it quite easily.

It does sound possible they were cheating, or at least an emotional affair.

It's possible you will never know, and you may just have to accept this.

I agree. As far as most men are concerned, I would say their attitude is: "When it's over, it's over. Move on."

I asked him if he had feelings for her beforehand and he said no? Just all seems a bit quick l, I know I’ll have to accept it.

Then I think if he wouldn’t have gone to all those gigs with her and already had a friendship with her would they have done the same?

Why did your relationship end? It’s quite possible he has been unhappy for a while and even if he wasn’t cheating, is if the view he’s available to date and have sex now and doesn’t see any need to take things slowly (especially if he’s not been happy or having sex for a while now).

I don’t see any point dwelling on it. Whether they did or they didn’t, nothing changes the stage you’re in now. Just focus on moving on.

I just can’t imagine having another relationship for a while.

That’s neither here nor there, you can’t keep your other half imprisoned just in case!