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Intimidating behaviour on the train

10 replies

Mumisconfused · 23/10/2025 23:31

AIBU for wanting my husband to report what happened on the train journey home?

On his commute from London, a thug looking youth stopped too close to my husband's back (the train wasn't full). My husband thought he wanted to take his phone, so he put it in the pocket and turned face to face with the person.
The guy didn't move for a few seconds, then stepped a bit backwards, takes a long screw from his pocket in between his fingers and starts banging on the door window with it, while looking at my husband. My husband said he kept looking at him and the person was agitated moving slightly forward towards him, and then stepping slightly backwards.

Eventually the train reached the next stop, and the guy pretended he was going to exit the train, but them stopped. He looked at my husband and then decided to walk fast down the carriage. My husband moved to another area in opposite direction.

Am I unreasonable to think this person was looking for trouble and that carry that screw and banging it was a threatening behaviour? A long screw can cause as much damage as a long knife...

Please share some opinions with me. I'm really nervous about this. What is wrong with people?

OP posts:
Thelosthalfathought · 23/10/2025 23:33

Report to transport police with full description

sound hideous

EmeraldRoulette · 23/10/2025 23:36

Definitely report it
Other people must've seen it

AndOnAndOn1000 · 23/10/2025 23:36

Your poor DH. Yes report it.
It sounds very sinister.

OnlyOneAdda · 23/10/2025 23:37

Sometimes on my commute (not daily but not unusual either) there is somebody acting in an intimidating manner, behaving antisocially etc. Sometimes it appears to me there are on something - sounds like it might be the case here.

Personally if I was your husband I would not have stared down etc - I would have been non-antagonistic and moved away from the situation.

I am a reasonably small woman though.

If you are dealing with somebody under the influence, or not of sound mind for another reason, it matters a lot more imo that they could hurt you than that they are being unreasonable.

By all means report but I can't possibly imagine anything would happen unfortunately.

Talkingfrog · 23/10/2025 23:38

I agree it should be reported. If the person did commit a physical offence, either before or after, it could be important information. Even if they didn't the behaviour was very intimidating.

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 23/10/2025 23:40

Sounds like he was on something tbh

Your DH should have just moved away - especially if the train wasn't full

He can report it but I doubt anything will come of it

OptiMumm · 23/10/2025 23:43

At the time (when he was safely in another carriage) he should've texted the BTP on 61016.

They constantly announce this as part of the 'See it, say it, sorted' campaign.

Tagyoureit · 24/10/2025 07:33

Yes that needs to be reported.

clarrylove · 24/10/2025 08:14

Definitely report it.

Ablondiebutagoody · 24/10/2025 09:16

Waste of time as nothing will be done about it. BTP aren't going to be trawling through the CCTV, trying to identify and then track down the guy for some low-level intimidating behaviour.

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