Anyone have a good, friendly relationship with their ex?

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We read a lot on here about terrible ex-DHs, acrimonious splits, etc. But did anyone have an amicable divorce, and have stayed on good terms, no hard feelings?

I get on very well with my ex. Took about 18 months after the break up before we got to the friends stage though.

Me. We split when my daughter was 9 months, she is now 31. The first year was difficult but we both worked really had to co-parent and stay friendly, we shared birthday parties, big events, graduation and everything in between.We now have a beautiful baby grandson and a wedding in 2026.

We both remarried and managed to keep friendly with our respective spouses.

I’m on decent terms with all my exes, have remained good friends with a couple of them. Same goes for DH, and for the vast majority of our friends: we were on holiday with a big group last weekend and several of the people in it had been in relationships with one or two of the others at some point. Big acrimonious scorched-earth splits, seething hatred of exes, and volcanic jealousy at the idea of even setting eyes on somebody your current partner used to be with are pretty alien among the majority of people I know.

We do 90% of the time. Which I think is pretty good.

I kicked him out when DS was 5mo and he’s now 8.5.

Wr have differences in parenting but I feel able to give him a call and have a chat about it.

it has taken work, biting my tongue and CBT to get here. The relationship is absolutely not a given.

I attended my oldest two graduations with exW but had had no contact for about 6 years before due to various forms of abuse

Her younger son hasnt seen his dad since he was a baby for the same reason.

This is a woman who went to Public School and has a First

We get on fine - I mean we’re not best buddies or anything but if the adult children have anything going on we can both go with respective partners and chat etc and we used to do joint parents evenings etc when the kids were at school.

Yes I do. Been divorced about ten years and have two teens

Yes we’re really good friends and always help each other out.
i couldn’t imagine living with him again as he frustrates the life out of me but we coparented amicability and there’s no animosity.

Our split was acrimonious at first but we now get on well and co parent well together. We were friends before we had DD and function much better in that capacity, not as partners. I’ve always got on well with his family too and vice versa.

Yes we get on well but we’ve known each other for 30 years. The first few years after divorce weren’t easy. He had a lot to learn after moving out of the family home and held a lot of resentment. He quickly remarried an absolute nightmare. But since their divorce he’s recognised that I was a good wife and I’m a good mum. He been through therapy which was much needed so understands himself better now.
We coparent well and communicate most days about our DC’s, swapping childcare to accommodate each other where needed. I’m still friends with his family. We keep the rest of our lives separate.
We’re both happier now we’re not married but we’ll be in each other lives forever due to shared DC’s, so we’ve got to make it work.

I get on well with my ex but we never married. We often eat lunch together with our son on a Saturday. I sometimes ask him to pick up something at his local supermarket since my local is often sold out.
He's on his way over now to pick our son up for the weekend and we will have a chat and a cup of tea before they leave.

Our relationship didn't work out but we don't hate each other.