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To ask what would you expect of this person?

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Diagnosis4 · 23/10/2025 22:07

I know it’s a strange question but I have to ask for personal reasons. What would you expect of a person diagnosed with the following
underactive Thyroid
high blood pressure
Coeliac disease and irritable bowls
Osteopenia

what would you expect their lifestyle to be like?work they could commit to? How much rest would be required etc?

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AliceTheCamelHasTheHumpSoGoAliceGoBomBomBom · 23/10/2025 22:09

It's hard to say really, it entirely depends on the person and the day.

I have a couple of chronic health conditions and one day I can do loads, a couple of days later I can barely get out of bed.

GrinchWithAConscience · 23/10/2025 22:09

Nothing. Very relaxed

XenoBitch · 23/10/2025 22:10

I would not expect anything, as their health conditions are theirs, and theirs to manage. And people with the exact same conditions could manage things differently.

Owly11 · 23/10/2025 22:13

I don't understand your question? Why would i expect anything from them?

Vaxtable · 23/10/2025 22:17

I have the thyroid, microscopic colitis and osteopenia. I work perfectly well and have no intention of giving up

I manage the colitis as best I can, being near a toilet if possible when I have a flare up, the thyroid issue makes me tired sometimes but I focus on work and just go to bed early if needed and the osteopenia isn’t an issue as I should taken calcium for it

I don’t really know what you are asking, many many people will manage perfectly ok to work with thise illnesses

Attempt333 · 23/10/2025 22:17

Difficult to say. I can only comment on the under active thyroid but without medication I can make you very fatigued and then when you add everytbinv else on the list I would be expecting that person to need alot of rest

Followthesunshine · 23/10/2025 22:18

Are you asking because you think you should receive benefits?

CypressGrove · 23/10/2025 22:18

I'd say that's relatively standard set of conditions (or similar) once at a certain age and would expect normal lifestyle and work conditions

minipie · 23/10/2025 22:23

Is this for benefits purposes OP? Or split of tasks in a relationship?

I would expect the IBD to be tiring (due to food absorption issues and probably a reduced diet) and they would need to stay near a loo. The osteopenia to mean they need to be careful physically, no heavy lifting. High blood pressure is not limiting of itself. Thyroid should be controlled with medication although might still mean the person has less energy than average.

SophiaSW1 · 23/10/2025 22:27

It’s nothing remarkable. It’s doesn’t make me think of anything.

Cadenza12 · 23/10/2025 22:29

Depends. Are they 26 or 66? How badly affected are they by these conditions day to day? What does their life look like? Are the shopping, cooking, cleaning, gardening, holidaying?

Barryana · 23/10/2025 22:32

I think they'd be a bit like me. I work mostly from home but don't do anything in the evening as i have to rest. Weekends are hit and miss. Travelling makes me exhausted.

Ponderingwindow · 23/10/2025 22:42

I have no thyroid, 1 parathyroid that barely works, high blood pressure, severe allergies with frequent flares, migraines, and ibs. So just not the bone issues, but add migraines.

I can’t work in an office easily because of my allergies. They are not easy to accommodate. It could happen, but commuting is also tricky. So I wfh exclusively. As long as I can do that, there is no need for me not to work.

it really comes down to whether or not someone has a skill set that makes them employable in a wfh job and makes them desirable enough to employers to be exclusively wfh. I’ve been doing this for over 20 years, so long before Covid.

if at any point i can’t find a wfh job, I will probably have to go on disability or retire early.

tupils · 23/10/2025 22:54

I wouldn't really think or expect anything tbh, and I don’t know anything about Osteopenia.

If you put a gun to my head and said I HAD to make some assumptions, then:

underactive Thyroid - Maybe they are on the more overweight side, if they don’t manage their diet?

high blood pressure - Maybe they could do with some more exercise?

Coeliac disease and irritable bowls - Poor them, they can’t eat bread and probably lots more other things, they will probably have to visit the loo more often, and might need to excuse themselves or pull out of things last minute, if they’re feeling ill.

Osteopenia - no idea, sounds like it’s to do with bones. So, maybe they have to be careful not to break bones. Or of they have an unusual stature, that might explain it. It might limit them in the activity they can do.

JLou08 · 23/10/2025 22:54

The capabilities would vary hugely by person. A person's capabilities could vary hugely day to day. No one could give you an idea of what to expect based on one post that lists health conditions. You don't even say what you mean by expect from a person. A partner/co-parent, relative you care for, friend, colleague? That would also impact my expectations, I'd expect someone to put most of their energy into parenting but let other things go if needed.

gamerchick · 23/10/2025 22:57

Assuming the thyroid was treated I wouldn't think of rest. I'd think of weight training to help the bones and blood pressure and being active as possible. I wouldn't be thinking medical retirement.

onthetrains · 23/10/2025 23:01

Followthesunshine · 23/10/2025 22:18

Are you asking because you think you should receive benefits?

Beat me to it lol.
I think asking for tips.

Allthesnowallthetime · 23/10/2025 23:10

I'd think it's not so much about what diagnoses a person has, but more about how their conditions affect them. That will be different for each individual.

Also there are so many other factors that affect what a person can manage in terms of activity.

RosesAndHellebores · 23/10/2025 23:23

Hypothyroidism- take the right dose of levothyroxine - like me - and crack on

High blood pressure - can be addressed by drugs

Osteopenia - calcium and weight bearing exercise. I have severe osteoporosis and have annual zolendronate infusions and injected another med for two years - you crack on. Have recovered from two badly wedged vertebra.

Coeliac and irritable bowels - cut out gluten and take care with diet. Fortunately I don't have that.

I also have pagets disease @Diagnosis4 no idea where that will end up leading me.

Eat well, cut down the booze, fresh air, work hard, maintain a social life and independence. Emotional, social and financial.

I was diagnosed with graves first so once treated was hypo. 1992

Osteoporosis 10 years ago

Pagets 2 years ago

V high cholesterol - diet has brought it down. Q3 risk low.

Have worked since 1980.

Nearly50omg · 23/10/2025 23:53

Completely normal - with the right meds and diet there’s no reason not to

BauhausOfEliott · 24/10/2025 00:30

I’d assume them to be on medication for their thyroid and blood pressure, eat appropriately for their coeliac disease, manage their osteopenia to avoid getting osteoporosis, and get on with their life.

These are all very common conditions which are either treatable or manageable and if someone’s on the right medication and eating the right things to manage them, I wouldn’t expect them to appear or feel unwell on a regular basis. There’s nothing remarkable about any of this.

My mum, at the age of 81, has all of these conditions except coeliac disease and provided she takes her medication she doesn’t really struggle with anything. She walks a lot, has plenty of energy and does a lot of very heavy gardening.

keepmeright · 24/10/2025 01:06

Ceoliac disease effects people differently. I'm eating gluten now while I await endoscopy to confirm. I'm very unwell. It causes severe stomach issues, I can't leave the house. I also get mouth ulcers, bloating, joint pain & it sets off tachycardia so can't stand longer than a couple of minutes. The fatigue is horrific & after 9 months GF it didn't improve. I'm working on vitamin deficiencies. When I am GF & eat gluten accidentally, even cross contamination, I get a cracking headache that nothing shifts, plus all the other issues. It really depends on how well managed it is so not as straight forward as don't eat gluten & you are brand new.

Assuming they got the osteopenia from undiagnosed ceoliac, they may have had it a while unknowingly. Unfortunately for some ceoliac disease untreated causes lasting damage. I have pain & weakness which may be permanent.

toonananana · 24/10/2025 01:12

As someone who suffers with just one of those conditions, my heart goes out to them. Depending on age and responsibilities, they must be exhausting balancing their varying needs. I work FT and have found although my bloods come back as being normal, I remain symptomatic- brain fog, slurred speech, overweight despite careful eating and exercise, hair loss, poor working memory, etc. add in anything else and I’d struggle to cope. I’m 42 and a sole parent to two little ones.

keepmeright · 24/10/2025 01:12

Some people have a type of ceoliac disease which Is not resolved hlny a GF diet so ...

I have other health issues but if it were 'only' ceoliac, each time I am glutened while GF, it writes off about a week of my life. That could be as simple as eating out & the restaurant makes a mistake, eating something not GF by accident, ingredients being changed in a food & not realising, mistakes in my own kitchen (it happens)

SlightlyHeartbroken · 24/10/2025 06:02

Depends how recent the diagnoses are. It takes up to two years for the intestinal damage from coeliac to heal. There is a psychological aspect too, trusting other people to keep you safe if you are eating out and thinking about it every time you eat or buy food. Thyroid meds can be difficult to get right, TSH should be close to 1, being under medicated can make you feel terrible.

There can be other issues too such as low B12 and other deficiencies due to years of malabsorption. Coeliac is an autoimmune condition and hypothyrodism can be too which means there is a susceptibility to other autoimmune conditions which may go undiagnosed.

Coeliacs are still eligible for covid vaccine as well as flu and pneumococcal vaccines due to potential issues with their spleen.

Coeliac is very much more than ‘just don’t eat gluten’.

if the person says they are exhausted it’s probably true.

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