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Dealing with husband being v grumpy... depression

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Angels1111 · 23/10/2025 10:12

My husband goes through these horrendous mood swings where he's just ...flat...grumpy in his responses to stuff I say..and I don't know how to deal with it anymore.

It's not all the time. But I never know when it's going to come up, it's just random. I find myself communicating with him less and less to protect my peace.

I get he has an illness, but how do you continue to connect to a partner like this? Aibu to want to abandon ship? I would say that I'm quite sensitive and I do wish I had thicker skin.

Eg "hey, I got a pay rise!"
"Okay people get pay rises"
Felt like a gut punch not to be celebrating with him...

"How was your morning?"
"Busy, but good" (this the morning before we were about to go on a holiday leaving at 2pm, I'd had a cold so hadn't prepped, so I expected to be busy)
Proceeds to give me a lecture on how I shouldn't be busy on a holy day
Felt like it made it much worse than it was.

OP posts:
Orangesandlemons77 · 23/10/2025 15:01

I'm getting similar but from my mother in law. It's bringing me down. She relies on me for company but can be so negative I'm starting to avoid her.

Not so easy with a husband though although he can be a bit like it too maybe picking it up from her who knows.

I have a good book called Change your thinking with CBT maybe that would help him.

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