Teenage son, sex advice please

[Bonnie7]

Son just turned 17, an all round sports lad and one of4 boys, lovely to siblings and enjoys family life. Not perfect by any means but a good lad as far as we know… Just had a girl come round to say they’d had sex 2 yrs ago (making son 14, she was 15) and that she wasn’t sure if she had wanted to do it or not…
also claimed her dad was abusive and my sons friend has photos of bruises that “her dad caused” that she’s sent him. He has since found out these are AI photos and can be found generally,
I’m always female biased but in this case I’m sad to say the girl is an attention seeker - but maybe because she doesn’t have a great family time and she’s mixed up.
Son said they shared a mini bus to school and she’d regularly reveal herself, move her pants to the side … rub his crotch and show her breasts in the mini bus. Apparently they attempted sex in a lane but my son
couldnt perform and another time she gave him oral sex but there was no finale son to speak! My son said he was excited but overwhelmed
leading to today … I don’t want to drip feed but we have lived here 5 yrs during which her parents spilt in Covid and I know the girl is troubled, I’ve spoken to her on the drive and she’s told me her life is terrible. I was tempted to contact her school…
now she has come to me telling me she had sex with my son and she want sure if it was what she wanted … I don’t know what to do for the best?
should I register this with the police? I’m very worried for both kids to be honest.

You know too much about your son’s sex life.

No finale? Who talks to a parent like this.

I’m not convinced.

That's a lot to deal with. Did you ask her why she'd come to tell you this now?

I would be worried about getting the police involved. I'd also be worried about what the girl has been subject to at home.

Don’t forget there’s no such thing as ‘just recording’ something with the police. You’re effectively reporting a crime with your son as suspect.

I too feel that it could be a big mistake to involve the police in this OP, as it could backfire and get your son in trouble. What he's told you about what happened, sounds fairly likely taking into account he was only 14 at the time, and it actually sounds as if she might have been the instigator from what you've said about her actions on the bus.

I also think that in view of what you've said about the photos being AI, that you're correct in your assumption that she's a bit of a drama queen. However, I also can't help wondering whether claiming her father was hurting her, was perhaps her trying to say that he's interfered with her, but she couldn't bring herself to say those actual words. In which case, bearing this in mind, I think I might be tempted to have a word at school, and say that she's sent these photos, which you believe to be AI, but you're worried that it might be a sign of her trying to bring attention to some form of abuse at home, whether it be physical, sexual, or both.