AIBU to keep DD off school to avoid virus?

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There's a very nasty and seemingly contagious vomiting bug going round DD's school. 6 kids were sent home from just one year group today. DD says there were 20 kids missing from her after school activity today - all juniors.

One kid in DD's class had to go to hospital earlier in the week when they couldn't get his temperature down. Other mums in our school year chat group are saying they've never seen their children this poorly before.

I'm wondering about keeping DD home for rest of the week to avoid her getting ill. Especially as its half term next week and we have commitments this weekend that would let people down if we had to back out suddenly. But those things are minor really, the main thing is that this illness sounds horrible and is spreading very quickly and I'd rather DD avoid it.

AIBU to consider it?

We normally are very strict with attendance and DD had 100% attendance last year. Just trying to weigh up risks and benefits.

She's 9 and DH works from home so childcare wouldn't be an issue

As you say, next week is half term. A week off to get over any bugs and back to health.

I wouldn’t keep a child off school to protect their time off from bugs, no.

That said, a lot of schools are giving a two week half term in Oct now because it’s such a germy term - and I’m in favour of that when done as the whole school. I just wouldn’t keep a child away from school when education is happening.

And if you and your husband are both working then you can’t reasonably have a well primary school child at home.

If she is ill I’d obviously keep her off though.

I have done this before. The problem is always the parent that sends the child in ‘because they’ve only been sick once’ always think the rules don’t apply to them . I wouldn’t be happy doing it but would do it to save half term being ruined .

I would too…

Health anxiety treatment. And get a job.

Definitely keep them off.

I remember a father carrying in a child to dd’s class wrapped in a blanket . Said child was green. The teacher was remonstrating with him and he just left his dd saying he and his dw couldn’t miss work.

I turned tail and took dd home. We had a Disneyworld holiday booked for three days’ time!

But if it's going round it's going round you'll get it if you haven't got it before. So just silly.

I’d do the same OP, to the people saying it will build immunity… No, not with something like norovirus, you can get it again after a short time. Coughs and colds true but not really sick bugs.

Public sector or unemployed? You wouldn't be thinking that if you worked somewhere that expected you to work.

@Goatsrule not silly at all. Her dd could very well catch it today if she had been in school especially given since classmates siblings are now getting it. If she’s not there she can’t catch it. Yes she could have caught it yesterday and come down with something today but it wouldn’t affect the entire weekend plans if so , perhaps only Saturdays .

Must have had that or similar before.

Yes you can get them again and again but the again will usually be a lot less severe.
If you were not isolated and cotton wooled all the time.

But she'll catch it next week from someone else who is carrying it? 30 in the class. Viruses travel you know? What difference does it make when other than plans?

Learnt nothing from lockdowns, what a sterile environment does to you etc. People are still paying for no colds or viruses with their major health issues years later.
The less isolated and the more rolling in mud the better for you, try it.

When I read your initial post I had a feeling it was probably already too late! Hope she recovers soon and you avoid it

Bit late now as most are airborne with incubation periods.

Will probably take 20 years or so to catch up on training your immune system.

As she’s been sick it’s not really an issue is it ?

@Goatsrulebecause next week is half term so the children won’t all be stuck in a classroom together. They break up tomorrow.

Maybe it's not half term where she is.
Hardly the point of the thread.
Health anxiety is.

Thank you. Yes we were too late anyway. DD told us that she and her best friend had sat with a child who was feeling too poorly to play at break time yesterday. They had tried to look after her, bless them, and the girl was sent home at lunch time.

Now, DD and her best friend have it too. In hindsight, it was inevitable.

😆😆

If a man can’t look after a 9 year old and work at the same time, he’s got problems.

Well you had Disney world and may be they needed to keep a roof over their head and earn money to eat. Or may be they valued education or didnt have an anxiety disorder unlike you.
Judgey narrow minded much.

Also you must understand with 30 others in the classroom and hundreds of others around you, you could have got that virus from anyone in those 3 days. How are you able to earn enough to afford disneyland with a simple mind like that.

Oh wait public sector perhaps

OP says in her first post that it's their 1/2 term next week and absolutely is guiding her decision making - they have plans next week that they don't want to miss.