Is my DM selfish?

[RainbowLollipop]

I’ll start by saying I almost never ask my DM for help with the kids. Lately I’ve been unwell, I was in severe pain and I rang DM crying and asked her to take me to hospital! I only ever go to hospital as a last resort and this was one of those rare moments I needed to go. DM said she couldn’t take me as she had just had “her first drink of the week” fair enough, I wouldn’t expect her to drive. Someone else took me. Last week I was admitted for the first time ever, I was in for 4 days and discharged at the weekend to continue as an outpatient.
I am due to go and see the consultant on Friday for a follow up but my youngest finishes school at 1pm so I mentioned to DM I was worried I wouldn’t be done in time. Her response was “I can’t even offer to help get DC because I’m busy and I need to get my eyelashes done” (DM doesn’t work Thursday-Sunday)
I didn’t ask her to help and this is why I don’t but I know as a parent if my DD was poorly and had been in hospital, I’d drop anything to be by their side or help out. I kind of feel a bit sad as DM seems to care more about herself than me.
AIBU here?

Yes, very selfish.

I’m guessing you do a lot for your mum? I’d stop that.

Awful behaviour but sounds as if she has form.
I hope you work it out.
I would reply in kind should she ever call you stuck.

I’m not sure she did anything wrong? You didn’t ask her for help. She can’t anyway as she has an appointment. Unless you are both aware of something us on mumsnet are not, like you have no one else to pick up if you’re late or something? I’d just ask a friend to be back up.

my mum would have dropped everything to help me out. I get why you’re upset.

Try and make alternative arrangements but be remembering this whenever she needs any help in her old age.