Being called a milf and feeling somewhat guilty

Gurgletum14 · 22/10/2025 16:43

I’d feel grossed out rather than guilty op.

Sounds like you need to start a thread in relationships about your rel issues because sounds shit.

takealettermsjones · 22/10/2025 16:47

I don't know why you feel guilty or why you're allowing this any headspace. As for ruining your relationship for an 18 year old, I really don't think the 18 year old is offering you anything. He's just being a dick - tell him to bugger off. As PP, I would focus on your relationship issues, not random comments.

BoredZelda · 22/10/2025 16:49

If a 19 year old was calling me that, I’d be telling him to fuck off and not be such a lecherous dick.

FeliciaFancybottom · 22/10/2025 16:50

I wouldn't ruin my relationship for a 18 year old
I think the 18-year-old would run a mile if you suggested anything. You're massively overthinking some misogynistic twit catcalling you.

PermanentTemporary · 22/10/2025 16:51

If a teenager calling you a porn term is enough to do anything to you other than make you tear him off a strip/ignore him (I’ve been there) you need to talk to your husband about trying to reconnect.

WatchingTheDetective · 22/10/2025 16:52

I wouldn't ruin my relationship for a 18 year old let alone anyone else for that matter.

Are you seriously thinking that's how an affair starts, with some skanky kid shouting names at you?

steff13 · 22/10/2025 16:55

everyday at school run there is this 18/19 year old who walks past me turns and calls me a milf. I don't entertain it. I just hurry the children along.

Is he actually doing this every day?

I don't think you need to worry about ruining your relationship, such as it is, because I don't think this is an "offer" per se. It's just a kid being a twat. There's no reason for you to feel guilty.

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Lunarises · 22/10/2025 16:55

WatchingTheDetective · 22/10/2025 16:52

I wouldn't ruin my relationship for a 18 year old let alone anyone else for that matter.

Are you seriously thinking that's how an affair starts, with some skanky kid shouting names at you?

No definitely not I just didn't want people even thinking I'd entertain that crap because I wouldn't I'm not worried about it I ignore them and roll my eyes. But I'm also not about to start drama by screaming fuck off at him whilst I have my kids with me.

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Lunarises · 22/10/2025 16:57

steff13 · 22/10/2025 16:55

everyday at school run there is this 18/19 year old who walks past me turns and calls me a milf. I don't entertain it. I just hurry the children along.

Is he actually doing this every day?

I don't think you need to worry about ruining your relationship, such as it is, because I don't think this is an "offer" per se. It's just a kid being a twat. There's no reason for you to feel guilty.

I wish it wasn't true but unfortunately is. Which makes me very uncomfortable I am not a confrontational person. The most I've said is oh hush rolled my eyes then walked off.

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Lunarises · 22/10/2025 16:59

Believe me I have tried several times. I may be in my head a little thinking am I creating this because of my situation at home ( I am not) but I suffer with anxiety and stupid thoughts so

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BlueJuniper94 · 22/10/2025 17:00

This is an odd post

What exactly do you feel guilty about??

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Lunarises · 22/10/2025 17:04

Can I just point out which I may not of done at the start I am not in any shape or form worried about having an affair with this boy. Nor do I think he's actually being serious my guilt lies within my head of am I creating this scenario because of my home life. (Anxiety is so fun)

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OptiMumm · 22/10/2025 17:06

Lunarises · 22/10/2025 17:04

Can I just point out which I may not of done at the start I am not in any shape or form worried about having an affair with this boy. Nor do I think he's actually being serious my guilt lies within my head of am I creating this scenario because of my home life. (Anxiety is so fun)

I'm confused then.

Why did you need to tell us about the state of your relationship etc?

And please explain why you feel guilty because some kid's being rude to you?

MrBlobbyScaresMe · 22/10/2025 17:09

Weird way to think about it, not gonna lie.
Seems like you enjoy it tbh. I think you've probably entertained it too (maybe by laughing it off) because why would he do this every single day? It's just weird.

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Lunarises · 22/10/2025 17:12

OptiMumm · 22/10/2025 17:06

I'm confused then.

Why did you need to tell us about the state of your relationship etc?

And please explain why you feel guilty because some kid's being rude to you?

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My partner tells me I won't ever find anyone else and. No one will ever look at me because I am quote not upto standard. Which I believe so I guess my guilt resigns from that.and if he ever heard this from said boy. He would then accuse me of cheating and being unfaithful which I am not

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OptiMumm · 22/10/2025 17:14

Lunarises · 22/10/2025 17:12

My partner tells me I won't ever find anyone else and. No one will ever look at me because I am quote not upto standard. Which I believe so I guess my guilt resigns from that.and if he ever heard this from said boy. He would then accuse me of cheating and being unfaithful which I am not

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But why do I feel guilty when I'm not doing anything and what can I do.

So you've answered your own question then.

Apart from 'what can I do'.

I mean all you can do is put up with him or leave him.

steff13 · 22/10/2025 17:17

Lunarises · 22/10/2025 17:12

My partner tells me I won't ever find anyone else and. No one will ever look at me because I am quote not upto standard. Which I believe so I guess my guilt resigns from that.and if he ever heard this from said boy. He would then accuse me of cheating and being unfaithful which I am not

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What is it that you love about this person?

takealettermsjones · 22/10/2025 17:42

Lunarises · 22/10/2025 17:12

My partner tells me I won't ever find anyone else and. No one will ever look at me because I am quote not upto standard. Which I believe so I guess my guilt resigns from that.and if he ever heard this from said boy. He would then accuse me of cheating and being unfaithful which I am not

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Christ. Why would you want to rekindle intimacy with someone so horrible?

Erorgreys · 22/10/2025 18:33

There is so much odd about this

the idea of feeling anything other than repulsed by a toe rag of an 18 year old disrespecting me like this every morning and in front of my children…. Well, I can’t get my head around feeling guilty

and the idea that you even think to say that you wouldn’t throw away your relationship for this 18 year old…. Leave me scratching my head!