Oh my gosh toddler sleep

[Sorrento79]

My 22 month old has been awake since 2.30 (now 4.30) after a delayed bedtime due to crying/tantrum - possibly overtired at that point, definitely cross that I decided we should go to bed (normal time) and stopped his play (with warning).

he's been ill with a cold and woke up possibly with his nose, but was then crying and i picked him up. He wriggled down and was then running about looking the opposite of ill, and being stroppy wanting to take his nappy off and muck around. I feel like i was hampered in managing that by OH trying to help but being stroppy about it as so tired and hissing that there is something not normal about it all which made me very stressed

my partner and i haven't really worked out how to parent tbh, and often aren't on the same page despite discussions. He i feel has quite fixed views and when tired wants to only do what hasn't worked before and can't try new things. Lots of huffing and puffing and trying to tell the child he should be asleep, with underlying worry that everyone else's child sleeps and never has a tantrum.

anyhoo

AIBU

yes - partner is right, this is all very abnormal and something probably wrong with our child or we are doing all the wrong things

no - toddlers are a nightmare at times

fwiw toddler now asleep on my chest which is not ideal but here we are

Tell your husband that your toddler is so bloody normal it's not even funny😅 split nights are the worst, you have my sympathy. My little one was such a shit sleeper from the start until he all of a sudden started sleeping through at 15 months. It was nothing I did, he just did it. Your little one will get there, it's just stressful until they do😂 hope you get some rest whilst he's sleeping on you😊

Who does the most parenting? You or your husband? If it's you, then parent your way. If it's your husband, parent his way (obviously there's exceptions to this, like if either of you are verbally, physically, emotionally or mentally abusive (which I'm not saying either of you are, but merely pointing out that obviously there are exceptions to what I've said)

If it's equal between both of you, then you need to sit down and have a discussion with him about how you BOTH need to agree on how to parent your child.

Oh - and your toddler is being a perfectly normal toddler x

I would expect disrupted sleep with a toddler who has a cold and is over-tired. Do you have a good bedtime routine with a quiet/winding down period, bath, cuddles and stories? Routine is important for little ones as is a regular bedtime. But it's normal for them to wake up sometimes especially when stuffy with a cold.

That sounds completely normal for a young child who has been under the weather!