Should I contact No Contact mum/sister

[ML5]

Been NC with my parents & sister for the past 7 years due to their toxicity towards me growing up & also abuse & also due to Inheritance reasons I am not getting no part of it. I do message my Dad every now & again as he’s got Cancer and lately I have been seeing my Sister around in the local Supermarket & when she sees me she tells me hello you ok but in passing me by. Does it seem like she wants to confront me/get in contact again? Should I contact my Sister and if so what should I say? Also should I contact my Mum?

Is your life/ mental wellbeing better with the current boundaries you've been holding in place?

I think I'd describe your set up as low contact as opposed to no contact. I don't think anyone can say what your sister is thinking/ feeling or what her intentions are. It sounds like they take up a lot of headspace from you and I'd just be wary as that could be a trauma response, ie trying to predict their behaviours so you're prepared for whatever they may be. Have you had any support for the abuse and toxicity you've experienced?

I’m sure going NC was not a decision you made lightly so I would be very careful about deciding to make contact again. Do you really think they will have changed?

No I don’t think they’ve changed but i want to confront them in a way however just more wondering about why my sister says hello are you ok when she sees me

What do you think 'confronting' them will achieve? It sounds like your sister is being polite when she sees you but she hasn't asked to see you or get together, has she? If you went no contact with them for a good reason, why would you want to initiate more contact with them?

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It seems like despite you are no contact that your sister knows it would be completely weird and escalating to blank you in public, so says hello like you would in passing to any acquaintance.

I wouldn't read her saying hello as she walks by as her looking for confrontation. If you want to kick things off then that's fine and is on you. But you'll need to own that you have started the row and that the confrontation and any fall out has been instigated entirely by you.

My thoughts as well. I think she's just passing herself as opposed to reaching out.

Manners. It’s kind if weird to ignore people you ard related to even if you don’t like them so a polite acknowledgement of them is the easier path. I’ve got relatives I never talk to but still get a polite hello in the street.

You can't know why your sister says hello when you see each other in public. A more important question is, do you want to be in touch with your sister again? Are you missing her? Are you missing your mum? Would you feel safe being in touch?