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New member of staff lying

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CocoBean22 · 21/10/2025 23:14

We have a new member of staff in the workplace who has recently started, she initially accepted the job offer then changed her mind and didn’t turn up on her start day, then changed her mind again and decided to come and started a few days later
🙄

She’s been with us a week, but today I found out from a colleague at a different branch that she hasn’t in fact handed in her notice at said old position yet……

She also called in sick last week on her first week for one day saying she had D&V however was spotted working at said other branch…..

Do I inform my boss that we are aware she hasn’t handed in her notice at her old job yet since starting with us?
I don’t know whether to not get involved or to be honest with my boss about what I know.

wwyd?

OP posts:
Waterbaby41 · 21/10/2025 23:16

If you are certain of your source then yes, tell your boss. Sounds very underhand.

WatchingTheDetective · 22/10/2025 00:02

Of course you should tell your boss. Your loyalty is to your company not to this random woman.

Blueberry911 · 22/10/2025 00:04

Depends who she was "spotted by" as it sounds like you're just doing a bit of gossiping in work but don't actually know. How reliable is your source?

CocoBean22 · 22/10/2025 00:37

Blueberry911 · 22/10/2025 00:04

Depends who she was "spotted by" as it sounds like you're just doing a bit of gossiping in work but don't actually know. How reliable is your source?

Definitely not gossiping!
The source is a trusted delivery driver who visits different companies, one of which is her old place of work where she was spotted by him working on ‘sick day!’

OP posts:
RedwallMattimeo · 22/10/2025 04:01

Surely your work will have needed her P45 in order for her to start with you?

Overtheatlantic · 22/10/2025 04:48

I’d stay out of it. You have nothing to gain by telling your boss but you will probably think they owe you for your ‘loyalty’ and that could come back to bite you.

springintoaction2 · 22/10/2025 04:50

yeah - your boss needs to know.

Why would you not tell him/her???

xanthomelana · 22/10/2025 04:57

I’d say nothing. It will come out eventually and if this delivery driver is so sure about it then why hasn’t he told your boss?

JoeSikoraTommysStory · 22/10/2025 05:18

Why were you & the delivery driving discussing her anyway?
How did a delivery driver know she was starting at your place on said “sick day” but seen her at other location?

But you’re sure you don’t gossip.

Yamamm · 22/10/2025 05:23

I don’t count this as gossip. You have a duty to report any suspicious behaviour. I would give a factual report to your managers. It’s corruption.

Bearbookagainandagain · 22/10/2025 05:32

I think you can report what you've heard to your manager, without getting into assumptions and gossips.
Keep to the facts: another employee seem to think she is still working there, and she was seen working at that branch.
They can verify the information and draw their own conclusions by themselves.

But I could consider what the impact really is even if she indeed hasn't handed her notice: if she is in a junior role with no strategic responsibility and has just started, they'll find out soon enough (or she will quit) and the impact on the team/business will.be minimal. If it drags on for weeks it's a bit different.

tulippa · 22/10/2025 05:42

Report what you know is factual. Eg: "The delivery driver told me that..." not "The delivery driver saw.." and let managers do their own investigation.

ChatHeeBeeGez6298 · 22/10/2025 06:04

I really wouldn’t say anything at the moment.
But I would consider saying something if the situation didn’t resolve itself within
one month.

It doesn’t sound as though her position is very senior and she may be being pressurised at her old branch to work out her notice? And thought she would lose the position with you if she did that? Or something?

I’m not saying what she is doing is right and the way she started at your branch sounds very unprofessional indeed but I wouldn’t leap to conclusions without knowing the full facts.

She can hardly keep up the pretence of working in two places at once for very long if that is what she is trying to do? It’s probably that she owes them a few hours? She should have been open about it of course but you don’t know what’s gone on so I’d keep out of it for now. This person must know that delivery drivers visit different branches too and be aware of the risk she is running? Unless you are her manager it’s not really your responsibility to snitch.

BoldBlueZebra · 22/10/2025 06:15

In my experience no good can come from sticking your neb in. I would forget what you know and mind your business.

SharonEllis · 22/10/2025 06:17

Yes, tell your boss.

sciaticafanatica · 22/10/2025 06:27

Do you work for a company that carries out no checks before they employ someone?
no p45?
no references?

whimsicallyprickly · 22/10/2025 06:27

CocoBean22 · 22/10/2025 00:37

Definitely not gossiping!
The source is a trusted delivery driver who visits different companies, one of which is her old place of work where she was spotted by him working on ‘sick day!’

How did the delivery driver know that new employee had called in sick ?

Maybe you told him?

Gossiping? 😊

Shedmistress · 22/10/2025 06:31

I'd give my boss the heads up that rumours are persisting and suggest a trip to the other place just to check it isn't true.

Mrswhiskers87 · 22/10/2025 06:39

Surely she’d need a P45 which if she’s still working somewhere else, she won’t be able to produce… so nature will do its thing. I would NOT get involved.

PermanentTemporary · 22/10/2025 06:41

I wouldn’t raise it unless I had some actual knowledge. Sounds like a mess but not your mess.

PollyBell · 22/10/2025 07:16

Mrswhiskers87 · 22/10/2025 06:39

Surely she’d need a P45 which if she’s still working somewhere else, she won’t be able to produce… so nature will do its thing. I would NOT get involved.

This, you dont actually need to get involved so no idea why you feel the need too

AllyCart · 22/10/2025 07:41

RedwallMattimeo · 22/10/2025 04:01

Surely your work will have needed her P45 in order for her to start with you?

No, you don't need a P45 to start a new job / start a new employee.

JudgeBread · 22/10/2025 07:45

I'd keep out of it personally but I also don't believe I owe any loyalty to my employer which is apparently considered a cardinal sin on this website.

Other people's lives and work aren't my business.

Halloweeeeeeeeen · 22/10/2025 07:46

Definitely raise it, it could be that she has got a longer notice period at the old job and got herself in a pickle.

SharonEllis · 22/10/2025 08:36

AllyCart · 22/10/2025 07:41

No, you don't need a P45 to start a new job / start a new employee.

Sometimes they take ages to come through.

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