Need some encouragement

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Please can you share your stories of it taking longer to conceive but it still happening for you.

DH and I have been trying for a year now and we’re waiting for our NHS appointment. It’s really starting to affect my mental health. All my closest friends are pregnant or just had babies and I am so happy for them but so sad for myself. This month 3 babies have been born, 2 gender reveals and my friend just FaceTimed me today to announce her pregnancy.

I can’t take much more. I feel so despondent. I really don’t know what’s wrong to do. Would love some encouragement please

We tried for over a year to conceive our first child. Long story short we were just doing the deed on all the wrong days! I started using ovulation test strips and managed to get pregnant within 2 months and now have a son. Now I know my cycle I've managed to get pregnant twice just by doing it once or twice at the right time in the cycle.

Unfortunately my last 2 pregnancies have resulted in miscarriages but I am glad that I now know my cycle so well if i want to try again in future. 2 of my close friends both announced pregnancies within a couple of months of the losses and honestly I didnt know how to feel. I actually think I've done very well to not take it personally. Something awful happened to me but it doesn't mean that I can't be happy for my friends. I don't resent them or avoid them at all. I wouldn't wish for any of them to experience what I have. I also like to remember that there's always someone who's going through something worse than me.

Get involved, love their babies until you get your own, I'm sure you'll have your own soon enough and you'll need your friends so don't push them away!

@ThatMintMemberthanks. I have been using ovulation kits and taking my BBT from the start. I stopped recently because it was becoming overwhelming. I can read my cervical mucus so I know when I am ovulating. We also had a loss back in Summer. I just don’t see an end in sight. I know a lot of people that struggle to conceive go on to do so but a lot of people don’t and there’s no guarantee. I just feel devastated at the moment

I think unfortunately a lot of peiple who have a difficult time conceiving or have losses don't like to talk about it so it can make you feel really alone. With my miscarriage this year I was basically told that there was no reason for it just like there was no reason why my previous pregnancy didn't work out. They said it's not uncommon to have several miscarriages before you have a successful pregnancy and that's why the NHS don't do any tests until you've had 3 losses as they expect it to work out on it's own for most people.

I really feel for you having a loss on your first pregnancy as I found my toddler helped me pick myself back up again and it obviously made me very grateful for him. It took me over a year to want to try again after that first loss so hopefully you're taking the time you need before trying again or feeling ready again already (there's no right or wrong!).

It's great that you've learnt your cycle now. On another practical note, no need to try every fertile day, we tried twice a day at some points and that did not work, every second day is just fine!