To want to spend the small amount of time we have alone… together?

[SunflowerBlink]

LSS My husband and I get about 1.5 hours alone together per week, when our kids go to clubs after school and he’s finished work.
AIBU to want to spend this 1.5 hours together, doing… well anything really?
Currently feeling quite rejected and sad continuing on with housework while he scrolls his phone on the sofa. No interest in me at all. Is this normal?

Have you spoke with him about this? Maybe he's just recharging, sounds like yous have a very busy life if that's the only time yous get, or is that the only time yous get together ?
Talk to him, my OH would swear up and down blind that she thinks I enjoy housework 🙄

Have you spoke to him about it?

I would not be doing housework. Talk to him. He may not realise yiu feel like this. How might he be interpreting u choosing to housework over doing things with him?

If he's just finished work, he's probably just having a bit of down time scrolling on his phone - we all like to zone out sometimes! Have you talked to him about it? Maybe suggest you both sit down with a cuppa and a cake and have a catch up? Or go for a walk or watch something funny together cuddled up on the sofa?

I think you're a little bit unreasonable, but I don't think you're unreasonable for wanting 1 on 1 connection, just that I think you're a bit unreasonable if you only get 1.5 hours without the kids about and you feel like that time must also be spent in each others pockets or it's not valuable time spent.

I need an awful lot more than 1.5 hours of just scrolling and relaxing to even feel like my own person. Time away from other people, including my much loved and cared for partner, is absolutely sacred to my sanity.

Maybe see if you can reach a compromise so once every 2 weeks you have a date night or a date-at-home-night or something, so you're getting time alone, but also getting time together.