My DS (2.9yrs) started pre-school today and.......

[OFSTEDoutstanding]

He walked in absolutely fine! No backward glance no peeling him off of my leg just a bye mummy see you later and straight over to the painting table. I rang after an hour and he was fine and still playing happily and when I went to collect hime at the end of the session he was crying. Was this because he missed me? NO it was because he wanted to stay for lunch!!!
I know I am being unreasonable and I am telling myself that he is a well rounded child secure in the knowledge that when I leave him somewhere he knows I will come back, and not that I am a complete nag that he couldn't wait to escape from!! But AIBU to have not wanted even a single tear or at least an I missed you mummy!!

yes

Ha! That's imposssible to answer, OFSTED.

I'm glad he had a good time, though!

DS1 was exactly the same - a very independent little boy! I came away and phoned dh and cried .He is now 4 and at school.

DS2 recently started pre-school and was the complete opposite. Howling and distress and I felt like an awful person for leaving him.

I much prefer the first way

LOL at 'complete nag he wanted to escape from'. Fab news that he had such a fun morning.

I had to practically rugby tackle my 18mo DS for a goodbye kiss and cuddle yesterday, he was much more interested in the toys .

dd runs in with never a backward glance too.

always has.

was halfway home with her last week and she turned to me and asked 'are you my mummy?' so clearly she'd go home with anybody who offered too

it'll be good for them in the long run, or so i'm told!

So glad he was happy today and had an excellent start. Mine, too couldn't wait to get away from me. However, don't count the chickens just yet. I remember I went in very happily the first day of school and had a lovely time but bawled the second when I realised I had to go back.

You are definitely NBU. enjoy the fact that he loves it and is happy and secure. It'll be fine and you won't have any of those heart-wreching separations.

Both mine have been like that. I'd like to think of it as a sign of secure attachment .

It is for the best as it will be so much easier for you both when he starts school if he is confident.

Excellent! Glad he was so confident.

YANBU though it does pluck at the heartstrings!!

LOL, YES, YABU

Seriously though, it's much nicer like this.

Had both.

Screaming and sobbing ev-er-y morning I left my DS at nursery, for about a year, from 11mths til 2yrs +
And then he started going to kindergarten here, cos we moved, and he now does not bother with a backward glance. He's so happy there. But I love it, love walking out the door and knowing he is happy for me to leave him.

Something to with his age, clearly, and definitely better than the first year! So yes, YABU.