Hey, I am a 47 year old menopausal woman who doesn’t think always rationally and have always been an over thinker!
i was in a 26 year marriage which ended 4 years ago…. My terms.
I then got into a new relationship with a man I have known for 7 years as we worked in the same industry. One thing lead
to another and we have been together ever since - jumping many obstacles together and live with one another.
He started a different job a year or so ago and a woman has just joined the team who is younger and they seemed to have formed a “friendly”
relationship. I have no issue with this whatsoever and not the jealous type. He has since stopped taking his sandwiches that I prepare for him and found out that she is providing his packed lunch and bringing him coffee and sweet treats for breakfast and the nature of my job, I am always around the county and he is a delivery driver and I have seen his car parked outside hers for some time when he tells me he has strict timelines to keep to for his job.
He is glued to his phone when he comes home and when texting he is smiling etc which I’ve observed over the past few weeks. I do know the passcode to his phone but have always respected and trusted enough to not need to check. I have thought about it and he isn’t overly protective of his phone, he showers etc and doesn’t take it with him etc…
we have come through so much, his battle with alcohol and rehab and he done so so well and been sober (due to a very unhappy relationship before me) for nearly 2.5 years now. This was a lot for a new couple to navigate through together when we’d both been in long long relationships and marriage. He tells me loves me all the time and how happy he is and we enjoy being intimate often… I just keep thinking of this woman and why she feels she needs to supply him with morning coffee, breakfast and lunch when I was doing it but have since stopped as he was leaving it behind and going to waste. He then said when I said I saw his parked car outside her house that he was running ahead of schedule and she’d finished her round (he does 2 rounds, her 1) and went in for a quick coffee. I’ve seen messages on the front of his phone when locked, her saying “are you not calling in today? Are you avoiding me?” And haven’t brought it up but it is playing heavily on my mind…
It has kept me awake at nights and the want to check is phone is really high but can’t bring myself to do it as it is an invasion of his privacy etc… what would you do? Just to put your mind to rest?