To find this sort of post annoying?

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Happy Mothers Day Mummy Bear. You are simply the best, thank you for everything you continue to do for me and our famalam. Happy Nanny's Day, Theo Bear 🐻 absolutely adores you. Happy Mothers Day to my beaut Sisters, I love that we get to do this journey together and I love the bond our littlies have.

It has it all! Littlies, mummy bear, famalam journey.

I think that kind of thing is fine delivered privately to the recipient - it's not wording I'd ever use, but if it makes someone happy, that's great. Posting it publicly on social media is simply showing off to others about what a wonderful family you have. 99% of social media is people showing off about one thing or another.

Each to their own.

I saw a post like this yesterday, the husband thanking the wife for all she does for him and their children and all it made we wonder was whether he was pulling his weight in the family 😁

I dont often see women posting similar

My friends husband used to buy her the most romantic birthday, Mother’s Day etc cards. You’d have thought that he was the most devoted husband.

nobody will ever know how many affairs he’s had, they’re too numerous to count. He’s also been physically violent towards her.

I very much hope that my husband never feels the need to write a gushing social media post to me, particularly as while he’s writing it, I’m likely to be IN THE SAME FUCKING ROOM AS HIM!

YANBU- if it annoys you it annoys you , it’s not like you’re giving them a thumbs down or anything .
I don’t see it that much to be annoyed but I’ve often seen that type of sentiment from people that are struggling, it’s something like wishful thinking or fake it till you make it .
Happy secure people don’t post statements like that .
So I might be concerned or wonder what has them rattled but I wouldn’t be annoyed.

If it's not meant for you then just move on and don't give it a second thought

I especially like those messages when the person they’re aimed at isn’t on social media. Or even more oddly, when they’re dead.

Ha yeah this is FIL to MIL, very soppy but will sleep with anything that would have him (which is a surprising amount of women given he is 60 and a total arsehole but there you go!)

Yes.

What is it that bothers you?
Is it the language used ,ie, famalam and mummy bear?
Or is the rosy image being projected by their post?
Both?

Those sort of posts are just performative.
I don't see the point of them other than ro tell everyone what a great child/partner you are.
If you value someone tell them and show them your appreciation, no need to tell the world

Yeah. Often suspicious. Just look at Brad Pitts words to Angelina Jolie. Wasn’t much later he allegedly (or has it been proven), threw her against the wall of their plane, poured alcohol on her whilst trying to sleep, and hit their son who tried to protect her. 🤮

https://jamesrussell.org/blog/blog/brad-pitt-writes-sweet-love-letter-to-his-wife

The babyish words.

I mean, I hate those sorts of posts tbh...asides from feeling a bit jealous (I don't have extended family to celebrate as such), they're also self-congratulatory and boring.

But - what IS ok for social media? Just what is social media for, if not crap like this?
Maybe it's social media that's the problem?

If my husband ever did anything like that I'd know aliens had sucked the life out of his body and replaced him with a pod person. Married 40+ years and no gush whatsoever, from either of us, thank goodness! Actions speak louder than words, as your friend's experience shows.

With all due respect, if you expect other people to express themselves as you would, you're going to find a lot to hate.

What is social media for? I only use X, and very little these days. Never got to grips with Facebook, Instagram or whatever else there is. I like seeing other people's funny stuff, lovely landscape or animal pictures, interesting historical stuff, genuinely interesting/important personal news, discussions on things that interest me. I can't be bothered with smugness and gush.

Or children that don't read it.

Has this been playing on your mind since March?

This made me laugh. I also dislike these weird posts - just pick up the phone or better still stand in front of them and tell them! All so bloody performative and actually all about the person posting rather than the recipient of the gushing praise!
I wonder where they're off to on their lovely family memory holibobs next year? 😂

My baby boys (twins) died two years ago at birth. Stillborn and his brother died in the neonatal unit at 4 days old. We turned off his life support. Every birthday since I write a little happy birthday to them on Facebook not because I think they can see it or because I want attention. Its because I love and miss my babies and everyday people mention them less and less and I just want prople to know they did exist. Maybe that makes me attention seeing or self obsessed but God I wish I was showing them off to the world right now almost age 2. Not visiting a cold grave every week

Not everyone's intentions are the same when talking about their "dead" This post hurts, I'm just a grieving mum. Not looking for judgement or mockery.

I think you went too far with the 'famalam'.

Hmmm. I think judging other people's social media has become the only accepted form of snobbery these days. It's almost like sport isn't it? Spotting what you think are cringey or performative posts/naff words etc. The new form of U vs non U.

I don't post much on social media but I can't really bestir myself to care too much about other people wanting to express happiness or gratitude towards their families. In the scheme of social crimes its pretty far down the tree for me.

Is it possible to die of cringe? No, YANBU. At all.

I have literally never seen a post like this but to be fair i am not really on social media so i wouldn't - do people really post such vacuous, nauseating shit?!