To be speaking to my exes exes

[KhakiOrca]

My EXH has just split up with the woman he cheated on me with. He cheated on her now too. And all she does is phone me up. Im going through a difficult time myself and dont mind talking to her as we are both sharing our emotions together. She is hurt that my ex cheated on her ( which I told her would happen when I first spoke to her yrs ago) I never blame the other woman. I blame the absolute arsehole of the man.
Well now my ex who I have recently split with, Im now talking to he's ex. My ex left his phone here when we split up and I unblocked a number on his contacts and then I saw a WhatsApp thing underneath the contact, so I clicked it only to see the photo of who it was and it started bloody calling her!
Anyway I clicked it off then all these messages started coming through. She was thinking its him. In the end I just replied that I was sorry didn't mean to call. Anyway my noseyness got the better of me and I pretended to be him. And found out he was also fucking cheating with her while he was with me.
Omg honestly I am so confused by my life right now. I eventually said he had left his phone here and she was now talking to me
So she still thinks she was actually talking to him until I said I now have his phone.
I suspected it was going on anyway so it didn't come as a shock, even though she was denying it when she called me.
I am just so hurt but so happy I knew I wasn't going mad.
Again, I have no hard feeling toward her either. We actually got on well, same as the other women from my ex husband. But within days of things happening. I am now talking to two exes of two exes and getting on well with them.
I know not all men are arseholes but the ones I have met are.
It's so easy for women to hate the other woman. But I actually pity them and feel sorry for them.
People keep telling me they would be fuming with the other women but I am really not! Just the arsehole men.
I dont know what my AIBU is really. But just wondering if anyone else has actually felt sorry the the other woman.

So AIBU to feel sorry for the other women.

and for your own safety stop befriending these women, this has all the potential to blow up spectacularly if the abusive ever finds out you're going behind his back doing this. please stop this drama and get some therapy for yourself. the relationship with this abusive man has affected you deeply it's clear to see.

It has affected me very deeply. One thing I found out with the last ex was that he was cheating on me. My instinct told me it. And I don't even care. Its the lies that hurt. This woman, he's ex who I met tonight also had a trauma bond with him.
The way she was talking, but also saying she fought him back and he liked it. Well this man broke my cheekbone . He also broke my arm.
The last time he nearly broke my jaw. Also kicked me and tried to gauge my eyes out.

Obviously your exes are the ones who betrayed you and the women they had affairs with theoretically don't owe you anything, but I personally wouldn't want any form of relationship with people who have knowingly cheated with someone who had a partner/spouse

I get that. Totally. I wonder if I even have feelings. I have empathy for the women. Its so strange. I honestly feel that they may have not felt loved. And wonder if its why they cheated etc. . I always gave lots of love to these men. Looked after them and when they were ill etc. Got nothing much back to be honest. May be they didn't feel it .

And believe me. If a woman knowingly has an affair then they are also to blame.
But the arsehole men are the ones who should knock it off.
I have come to the conclusion that men just do it anyway. If they can get away with it they will do it for all different reasons.

My ex husbands ex is absolutely distraught. But she knew he was married when they were having an affair. And I kind of feel sorry for her. But, she met a cheating man. So how's it gonna end?
I warned her. And now she calls me all the time. She wants to meet me. Just like I wanted to me my last exes ex tonight.
I have so much sympathy for the women. But may be I also like they are feeling the pain I felt. Especially when I no longer have a connection to the men.kind of like Karma.