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Help resolve a petty argument please

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Twinkletoesmagee · 17/10/2025 13:40

So DH has a week booked off work which he thought was next week. We discussed what our plans for this week might entail (my work is flexible) and things we might like to do.

Following on from this discussion, it turns out that DH has actually booked the following week off work when I am away all week.

During our last conversation, I asked DH if "he was going to change his week off?" He said no, to which I was disappointed. He said that I had said not to change it but I said no such thing.

It then transpired that he meant, he wasn't going to change our plans, not his booked week (ie. he'll change the week off with work to next week). He got quite shirty with me for not realising this was what he meant and said that my question was ambiguous. I can't understand how that question was ambiguous at all. To me it was a simple question which didn't reference our plans at all.

I know this is exceptionally petty but we both get frustrated when the other one doesn't how we could think like that.

YABU - your DH is right. Your question could relate to anything around your plans.

YANBU - your question was specific to changing his week off and given that he had booked the wrong week, it is obvious that this is what needed to change.

We've been together nearly 30 years so it's very much not a deal breaker!

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Bigtreeesss · 17/10/2025 13:45

if you’re bothered about having time off together maybe plan it better? This sounds like he had a week holiday that he wasn’t planning to spend with you, you’ve tried to make it work so you can do things, he got the dates wrong and now you can’t do the last minute plans

i can’t really understand the issue, can he even change his week off?

Twinkletoesmagee · 17/10/2025 13:47

Bigtreeesss · 17/10/2025 13:45

if you’re bothered about having time off together maybe plan it better? This sounds like he had a week holiday that he wasn’t planning to spend with you, you’ve tried to make it work so you can do things, he got the dates wrong and now you can’t do the last minute plans

i can’t really understand the issue, can he even change his week off?

Sorry I think you have misunderstood..
He booked the wrong week by accident. He only realised it was the wrong week earlier today when he saw his calender was blocked out for the following week.

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Ineedpeaceandquiet · 17/10/2025 13:55

Your question was clear.
He was trying to avoid taking blame for booking the wrong week.

JaneJeffer · 17/10/2025 13:56

He obviously assumed you would know that he would change the week off to one that suited both of you and then took your question as asking whether he was still going to do the things you had planned. Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill is my advice.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 17/10/2025 13:59

Yeah he was in the wrong here, your question was perfectly clear!

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 17/10/2025 14:10

I've had to read your post a couple of times to understand it so I can understand him maybe misunderstanding you 🤣

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