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AIBU by being super creeped out a 25 year old is obsessively archiving the photos of a girl who looks about 16 all because he has a grudge against her for getting him banned for trolling?

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notsurewhatusernametoput · 17/10/2025 06:00

Hello, I needed somewhere that I could get fast replies since I'm not sure what to do, but I just saw this and now I'm feeling scared for this girl and I'm wondering if I'm being unreasonable or if this is genuinely something that warrants further action. I've already contacted the admin team of the site the blog post was posted on.

There's an artist who is posting to a fairly small art site who is a very good artist for her age. She's also been posting photos of herself along with a slip of paper that has her user name on it. She looks about 16 and based on her wording she lives in the UK, and this man, who has said he is 25, is American.

The blog post is written very weirdly almost in a "word salad" sort of way. It is very long, as if it was typed up without much thought put into it being concise. In this blog post he has archived all of her photos, so if she deletes them, they'll still be on his blog. It's hard to make out the context, but I followed a trail of links and none of it made him look like the good person in the situation. She got him banned for various forms of trolling, including more malicious types of trolling such as genocide denial and Nazi sympathising. I think he said she got him banned from 10 different sites, not sure, it was hard to follow his blog post for the reasons stated above.

This started two years ago, so based on how she looks this obsession with her must've started in 2023, when she was likely only fourteen. I did a deeper dive on this man and he has repeatedly said he is 25 years old. While I was digging I found a blog post where he complained about "abusive Discord moderation" because a Discord server banned him after allegations of him saying inappropriate things to an (unrelated to this girl) minor came out (links were provided that went to content he had posted on an account that was confirmed to have been his), and the moderators of the server wanted him to provide a photo of himself with a slip of paper with his username written on it. He provided what the moderators called excuses for reasons not to do so, and he was banned from the server.

In the blog post about her, he has also accused her of several things:

  1. Being an "art thief". In the posts of her art that he archived as "proof" she must be stealing art, she includes a link to a video of her drawing the art. So I very much doubt she is stealing art considering there are videos of her drawing the art she posts, says her username using her voice, and draws a signature which is her username plus the site she's on.
  2. Being a "catfish" because she once went by a different name or pseudonym. He also accused her of actually being a "30 year old man". Her photos have her holding up a piece of paper with the username/link to her profile, which was created this month, confirming the photos are also recent ones and are not old photos.
  3. Being a "username thief" because she has a username that is (after looking it up) a popular type of flower in a famous game. For context, the troll who made the blog post has a history of copy and pasting hyper-specific usernames of people who have "exposed" him in some way or another, and then signing up with those usernames on other sites as a means of sabotaging their reputations. This seems like him trying to use DARVO tactics on her or people "not in the know" about his history.

I don't know what to do and I feel like contacting this girl warning her especially given the allegations this man has had on him, all with proof to back them up by the looks of it. Am I being unreasonable or should I go further than just reporting him to the site he posted the blog post on?

JUST TO CLARIFY: I do not know either of these people, but as the parent of a girl who is 16 it's ringing massive alarm bells

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tripleginandtonic · 17/10/2025 06:14

He doesn't have her address does he? You sound a bit dramatic and overly invested OP, you don't even know her age. If she's posting regularly I'm sure she can deal with him.

notsurewhatusernametoput · 17/10/2025 06:20

tripleginandtonic · 17/10/2025 06:14

He doesn't have her address does he? You sound a bit dramatic and overly invested OP, you don't even know her age. If she's posting regularly I'm sure she can deal with him.

Nowhere in the blog post does he say he has her address, no. But after Googling who the troll is, he has a history of doxing people. There are also links of him posting very inappropriate comments to a user who was only 14, and the troll knew this. Said troll also stalked the boy across various social media platforms for at least three years despite the boy directly telling him that he was very uncomfortable.

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MouseCheese87 · 17/10/2025 06:28

Do you not have anything going on in your own real life? Why would you take this on as one of your problems? And even if you did, what realistically do you plan to do about it?

Zonder · 17/10/2025 07:02

Please don't ignore this. We all know how dangerous some people are online. Do you think you could contact the site moderator/owner for a start? I would definitely let the girl know.

notsurewhatusernametoput · 17/10/2025 07:05

Zonder · 17/10/2025 07:02

Please don't ignore this. We all know how dangerous some people are online. Do you think you could contact the site moderator/owner for a start? I would definitely let the girl know.

Contacted both the mod/admin team of the site he posted the blog on. Awaiting a response back.

Contacted the 3 admins of the sites the girl is on, got a message back from one of the admins saying he already banned him a month ago for unrelated reasons.

OP posts:
Zonder · 17/10/2025 07:07

Dodgy bloke! Well done for doing that.

BallerinaRadio · 17/10/2025 07:10

I don't think he's the only one obsessed it's very odd you're so invested in this

LadyBugOut · 17/10/2025 07:12

Of course warn the girl - then she can do what she likes with the info or ignore it.

Viviennemary · 17/10/2025 07:13

Why on earth are you even bothered about these two strangers. They both sound as nutty and obsessed as each other. Just let it go. Or you'll be as bad as they are.

BrainlessBoiledFrog · 17/10/2025 07:34

I think you’ve done a very good thing here Op! Ignore the people saying you sound as obsessed as they are! There have been online communities and individuals that have exposed all sorts of awful human behaviour (from paedos, to animal abusers, to serial killers) from getting that gut feeling about someone online (based on weird online behaviour) and not ignoring it. You did the right thing morally and as a mother of a daughter I’m glad there are people in online spaces like you that will report people and not ignore it!

ELO10538 · 17/10/2025 08:35

Report to the site admin. What else can you do?

zingally · 17/10/2025 11:04

Beyond reporting him to site admin, I'm not really sure what else you can do, especially as the girl is in another country.
It reads like she's already aware of him anyway, but is choosing to carry on with her own stuff regardless.

Aimtodobetter · 17/10/2025 11:10

I think its laudable that you see such a problematic situation and want to help. I'd drop the girl a message with links warning her of what you've seen, and maybe ring 111 to see if there is anything that they can do but if he's American probably not. You've already contacted the moderators so I think that's all you can do.

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