Flirty school dad

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A dad from DC school has become very friendly with me. When our DC started the school, I would notice him looking at me at drop off/pick up but thought he may just be the type to have a nose around the yard sort of thing. We never spoke but it continued, often he would say hello as if he knew me.

I was with my now ex at the time and he was with one of the mums. Towards the end of the first year we were at a class party (both alone). He sort of made a beeline for me and eagerly told me he’d split with the mum. We got chatting and I mentioned I’d also broke up with my ex but I recall my body language being very neutral (arms crossed, friendly chat and glancing around for other parents to chat to). Within that conversation he made some sort of innuendo but I didn’t think too much of it.

since then he’s done the same at every party, (except his DCs Obviously when the mum is there.). He’s now moved to privately messaging me on WhatsApp and SMS. He replies to all my stories on WhatsApp. Albeit when he messages it’s about various things to do with DC he’s asking personal questions like what I’m up to and how’s my day, am I going out at the weekend etc. I’ve ignored the messages and he makes jokes about me being too busy for him and not replying. He’s very well off and he’s asked if I’d consider going to Florida with all our dc in the half term!!!! He said this to me at a party and I laughed it off (lunacy!). I thought he was joking but he’s followed up by sending me hotels to consider. Again I’ve ignored. He now comes over to me every time I see him to talk, he’s talks to me about money often (having it) and his career. Our DC get on well but that’s as far as it goes. He is also quite sexist.

WWYD? I don’t want to cause more awkwardness by being rude and stern but AIBU to think he’s actually trying to pursue me? Could it be friendly? I don’t know if I’m being paranoid but I feel the mum has been extra cold with me in passing. We don’t talk just hi but even that’s stopped now. Not that I blame her if she has any idea about this!

Any other redeeming features? 😂

Yet another man with absolutely no game whose only strategy to attract a woman is to dangle his wallet in front of her.

D- Must try harder.

Block him.

I wouldn’t tell him you’re seeing someone else, or disclose anything about your life AT ALL. If he’s as creepy and stalker-ish as he sounds, that won’t necessarily put him off, and might even make him more determined to engage. If he asks outright, say very firmly and coolly that you’re not in the market for a relationship, and shut the conversation down. Try and be already in conversation with other parents whenever your paths are likely to cross, so he can’t make a beeline for you, never smile in his direction, even politely, and avoid eye contact.
Hopefully he’ll get the message.

Ahaha!!

I can’t give you any advice. A dad got friendly with me and I acted like a 15years old on the run for stealing some sweets. I never did anything to get his attention but I surely felt guilty of it!!!

Good luck.

Sounds like you're lapping it up as a previous poster has said! If not then why tell him you'd also split with your ex? And more to the point, if you had an inkling of what he was like from the start, which I clearly did from your post, then why give him your number?! That seems bizarre to me if you have absolutely no interest in him!
If you're that bothered then just don't engage with him, simple really.

Are you actually having a laugh !!!!
You don’t see it 🙄..
Bull shit , yes you do , you’re just playing games with OP cause she said she has autism ..
How weird of you …

Defo trying to pursue you OP ..
From your post I’ve a feeling he’s a player .. And so immature 🙄
Already been seeing a mom from school , asking you away on holiday with your kids & his !

Yes, he's definitely interested. I know you've ignored some aspects of his messages, and some men would have got the hint and realised you weren't interested. This man, is thick skinned and I think you need to be more direct. If you don't want to be blunt, then you need to make sure you mention that you are now in a new relationship. I think you'll find, he'll step back, and the messages will stop and he'll keep his distance.

You seem really nice op and I totally understand that being neurodiverse can make it harder to judge social cues and know how to respond etc.

Sorry that some of these responses were so unnecessarily harsh, ie accusing you of faux naivety, or using unkind sarcasm.

My only advice is don’t ask for advice on here as once again people think it’s ok to attack people they don’t know without fully understanding their situation.

All the best

I think you should have nipped this in the bud a long time ago. Say you are seeing someone.

He sounds insufferable. Ignore and avoid. What a creep.

From what you’ve said it sounds like is 100% trying to persue you. Probably because you had both broken up with partners at the same time has made him think he’s got the green light to lay it on Factor 50 thick.

I’d be clear that you are not interested and shut it down, he sounds insufferable and it needs spelling out to him. I think women are hardwired to ‘be kind’ and worry about offending people. I think unless you are clear he won’t leave you alone.

He sounds like a dad at my kids school, ever since his wife left him he’s been trying it on with anyone that will give him the time of day.