To not take my 12 year old to scare event

[Sugarsnapfairy]

I'm taking my 16 year old to a well known scare event tonight (Norwich for reference) It is for over 12's, but I chose not to buy a ticket for my 12 year old, as I've never been and I dont know if it may be a bit much for him.

My 16 year old wants his brother to come along, but I just dont know. I dont want to ruin the night and have to leave early, but I would hate for him to miss out if its not too bad!

AIBU for not booking him a ticket?

It is nice brother wants him to come but unless 12 year old very keen I wouldnt bother either.

You are scared that he will be scared at a scare event?

Does he want to go?

No, I'm not scared he will be scared, I KNOW he will be!

I'm just unsure if its worth the possibility that we wont be able to make the most of it if he completely freaks out 😆

Don’t. Enjoy the time with your older son, and plan something wise with your youngest.

Primevil? I took my son to the first ever one aged 11, it was both a scary and fun (sometimes terrifying!) night. Some people say is has become more scary since then as it initially had a family friendly walk as well. He didn't want to go again but wasn't traumatised for life!

Yes, Primevil.

I'm starting to feel bad for excluding him (maybe for his own benefit!)

I would leave it up to your 12 year old, and if he doesn't want to go through some of the attractions perhaps he can wait in the indoor cafe area which I'm sure will be safe.

Why are you stessing about this when you haven't even asked him? Is he the freaking out type normally? This can be solved with a conversation with him, not us!

Thanks all, I made the correct decision to not give him the choice. He would not have liked it. Even my 16 year old admitted he was glad he didn't come in the end.

Sometimes I feel as the parent, we need to make decisions. We don't have to consult them on everything (dont get me wrong he has free will over most things, including the less trivisl aspects of his life!)