Am I being unreasonable

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So partner works ft I work pt (very full on job) , I do cooking . wash up , dry put away, cleaning , washing, ironing. walk dog etc so most stuff in house, am I being unreasonable that he doesn’t do any of this?
he will occasionally mow lawn . I have to also beg to have a cuppa made for me. Dread the day I get poorly and can’t do i. Should add I’m going through some health issues atm

Do you think you’re being unreasonable?

We have a similar set up, I work 50 hours per week, partner does more domestic chores. We both have similar free time. It feels fair to us.

I batch cook at weekends. Mostly because it helps the fatigue of planning meals.

You haven’t said how many hours you actually work but… I think the goal to aim for is equal down time so if you can fit that all in whilst he’s at work then it seems like it would be a fair division of labour. However, if he comes home of an evening and gets to relax whilst you’re cooking dinner and putting a wash on then that obviously isn’t ok.

Depends how part time you are. If I had, say, the equivalent of 2 days at home, I would happily do all that stuff. I've had a couple of unexpected days off this week and t's amazing how much shit you can get done! House has never been tidier, tasty dinners......I love it. I'm even contemplating some DIY.

Thank you. I work 20 hours a week

Do you have the same free time? Is prob a better measure

17 hrs to do the housework is more than enough and that should mean you have equal free time ( unless the dog takes a lot is walking , in which case who wanted the dog?)

Do you have kids?

Maybe I’m expecting too much. No kids. I suffer badly with insomnia so I feel exhausted which doesn’t help. Damm menopause 🙈

Sounds like you both have similar amounts of free time then. Do you contribute 50/50 to the house?

It doesn’t sound too much to do with no children and working 20hrs a week.

I can’t imagine begging anyone for a cup of tea though!

if you are feeling rough he should do more
but menopause insomnia- have you tried HRT?

Thanks everyone, I’m looking into hrt, I know it depends on individual households, just feels a lot atm but on reflection I’m home a lot more and I should feel lucky in all honestly, tonight he comes home and washes and drys up 🤷‍♀️🙈

With no kids and just two adults housework and jobs can’t take that long

i thank yabu but I wouldn’t have married someone who doesn’t offer to make me a cup of tea? What does he say when you ask him to because you’re exhausted?